Re-train Your Brain

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So, if you have been following my blogs you know about the law of attraction. So you also know that you get what you think about whether it’s good or bad. What you focus on, even if it’s for a short period of time, will become your experience. The law is always fair and consistent. It’s like when you’re dating a certain type of person and for some reason it doesn’t work out, so you move on to the next person only to find the same person in a different body. And until you decide it’s time to clean up your vibration, meaning your point of expectation, you will continue to attract that same person over and over again. When you realize this it is time to re-train your brain. It’s not as hard as you might think. It just takes a little practice and some patience.

So let’s say that you just broke up with your lover and you are feeling lost and alone. But that is because you are using that person as your source of happiness, and that’s why you feel out of sorts and a little un-balanced. Now let’s look at it another way. That person wasn’t the right one for you. They were just another piece of the puzzle, letting you know what you don’t want, therefore helping you figure out what you do want. And when you do look at the situation in this way you can actually feel the happiness grow inside you a little bit each day, until you realize that the happiness you were seeking was right there all along. This is you loving yourself more fully. And the more you do that the better you’ll feel. When you are selfish enough to care about how you feel and you practice that often you will never go back to feeling down, at least not without knowing what to do about it. That’s when it’s time to look for a new mate. But no matter what,if you date one person or a thousand people you are exploring and figuring out what is best for you. Isn’t that nice to know. And each time you part ways with a potential mate you will understand that it is just part of the process and there is nothing wrong. In fact, it couldn’t be more right. Keeping yourself on an emotional high is the only way to live. This could seem a little tricky at first but once you get the hang of it you can create anything you want in your life. I like to think of it as my own little world. Each person is in their own little world. None of us thinks exactly alike. We all have our own ideas and our own feelings about what is right and what is wrong for ourselves. No one else can insert their feelings into another person. Oh, they can influence another to manipulate them to do something, but eventually that will upset the relationship, and it will dissolve or fall apart. If you remember to live and let live and stop judging and condemning, and stop making anyone responsible for your happiness, life will be so much fun. It is so important to know this, because life can be whatever you want it to be as long as you take responsibility for your own joy. And let other people be responsible for theirs. The universe is very tricky in that it can help every one of us have what we want without taking anything away from anyone else. It has a way of blending us all together in perfect harmony when we are in a happy state of mind.

I know that if you are new to this concept that it could be a little un-settling to think of being your own boss. But I promise you it will be very rewarding once you get into the rhythm of happiness, and you let it run to you and through you. It’s like a stream that flows swiftly and you put your boat in the water and relax, the flow will carry you along with ease and you won’t even need paddles. But if you were to turn the boat up-stream and start paddling it would be a very difficult struggle. You can tell which way you are going by the way you feel. If you feel good about what you are thinking, doing, or who you’re with, then; you are definitely going with the flow. So, keep that in mind next time something upsets you. Pay attention to all your feelings and gravitate toward the good ones and steer clear of the not so good ones. Just learn from them and move forward. That is how you re-train your brain.

Here’s another example; Let’s say you are working a job that you hate. Yes, it pays the bills but it is not very rewarding. Every day you wake up with a grouchy attitude because you know you’re going to have another crappy day. Things will never get better for you when you wake up expecting to have a bad day. So how do you change that? You start by focusing on something you can feel good about, even if it is not related to work, it will help to focus on that. You could try by telling yourself before you slumber at night that you will release all resistance about work, and when you wake up in the morning try thinking about how you want the day to go. You may only make it to breakfast before you think of something un-wanted, but that’s okay, it takes practice. Just laugh it off and try again the next day. It will get better. As you keep doing this you will notice a change in the way you feel at work. And when you do feel better at work you might find that there are aspects of your job that you actually like, or you may find an opportunity to get a new job that you really love. But you must find your inner happiness first or you will just keep finding the same situation, just different faces and different places. It’s like the guy that keeps doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. Or think of it like this, Or you could say that if you don’t change the vibration of your thought patterns you will just be taking yourself with you, and you’ll end up in a loop of anguish.

You know it doesn’t have to take too long to change to a different mindset. It’s all up to you. The more you practice the faster it will change, and eventually it will become the norm for you to look for and find things that bring you joy.

And here’s the last thing I’d like to mention. Whenever you want to start a project and you don’t know how it’s going to come or who will bring it or where the money will come from, don’t worry. Worry is not necessary. It only slows things down. Let the ideas come to you and relax your mind through meditation, or petting your cat, or taking a walk in nature. And when the inspiration hits you to make the next move, then; take action. The money will find its way to you. Keep thinking about why you want what you want, how it will make you feel and what about it will be fun. I promise you that when you approach anything in this manner all the components will be attracted to you. Just pay attention to how you feel and if you start to get a little overwhelmed take some deep breaths and remember to remember to go within, find a happy thought and bring yourself back to center. Think of it like this, the universe knows what you want and knows how to bring it to you. That’s how the universe works. It may take you down some windy roads but when you look back you’ll see that everything that happened was necessary to bring you to where you are now. Remember that you are the boss of you and you truly deserve all the happiness in the world. You don’t need to wait until you’re old to start traveling and getting all the goodies you have ever wanted. You just need to re-train your brain to know and believe that you can be, do or have anything you want. Think big and know that you are a very worthy being. Whether it’s a lover, a job, or an invention, or anything else you desire, you can have it. All you have to do is figure out what you want and then let yourself have it. You know it’s as easy to create a button as it to create a castle. Life is good when you let it be, or should I say if you expect it to be. Remember to be your own boss and feel your way to bliss.

So are you feeling good yet? I think you are, or at the very least you’re feeling better. Be kind to yourself and everyone else too. And remember there is great love here for you.

Your friend forever,

Deb Mertan

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I have mentioned the word momentum in some of my blogs, but I really want to impress upon you how important momentum is. Have you ever had a great idea that just gave you goose bumps all over your entire body, only to lose the feeling after putting doubt on your path? Well the reason for this is that you are used to thinking that good things don’t happen to people like you. You probably got a pretty good negative momentum going and it’s very strong. Maybe you picked up the idea that things are not supposed to work out for you from a parent or a teacher, and it’s been stuck in your mind all this time, or is it? What I mean by that is, that we all have the power to change our old beliefs or habits. You know that a belief is just a thought you keep thinking, don’t you? And it only becomes a truth if you let it. So how do you change the direction of momentum? You start one step at a time. Even a thousand mile journey starts with the first step. It is possible, but it takes a willingness to think another thought until it becomes your new belief, therefore your new truth.

Now that I understand how the law of attraction works I can see why people are where they are in their lives. I can tell by the way they talk and by the results they achieve. This applies to good lives and bad lives. When someone is a complainer and acts like a victim they just keep attracting more of the same. It’s just same results with different faces. If you haven’t changed what’s on the inside what happens on the outside can never really change, it’s the law! It always knows what you are thinking and more importantly, what you are feeling. It’s like when you are yelling at someone in an angry tone but saying, “Don’t you know I love you?” There is a mixed message there because the feeling doesn’t match the words.

So how do you get your momentum going in a positive direction? You pay attention. What I mean by this is you see how it feels when you say it or do it, whatever it is. If it feels good then you are on the positive trail, but if it feels bad you need to re-direct your thoughts or words to match the good feeling. For example, if you are hating on someone, you are feeling bad as well. So in order to feel better about that person you either need to ignore them or try to find something about them that you like. It may take a few tries but that’s okay too. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day, right? The more you practice finding good in other people the more good people you will find.

And another thing, you get what you expect to get. It’s like when something bad happens and you say, “I knew that would happen.” Well it happened because you expected it to. So why not start expecting good things to happen? It works both ways.

But sometimes momentum can be so intense that you just can’t stop it. Unless, of course, you come to the realization that you are the only one with the power to do something about it. And there are those people that never do get it, like Jim Morrison of the rock band “The Doors.” He had a destructive momentum going on. No matter how many people loved him and tried to help him he couldn’t stop the drinking and drugs. Oh, he would try to stop, and it would last for a little while, but he would always return to drugs and alcohol. At one point he even went to jail for 4 months because he supposedly exposed his penis on stage, which was never proven, and used profanity. Of course, he was clean when he got out, but that too was short lived. When someone keeps going back to the bad behavior it is because they have not taken the time to change their thinking pattern. They let what they see be their reality instead of creating their own reality. If they understood the law of attraction they would want to change the way they feel about everything.

Now I’ll tell you a story about positive momentum, mine. Although my life is pretty amazing right now it hasn’t always been. And even though I have always been a student of positivity.  I didn’t understand it the way I do now. It all started after my husband passed away. I felt like my life was falling apart and I couldn’t seem to make ends meet. It seemed like I was crying every day and nothing was making any sense. So I actually sat myself down and had a long talk about getting back on track. The first thing I did was look for things on the internet that would help lift my spirits. I found some processes that really seemed to work and as I continued to look for new ways of feeling good, things miraculously started changing for me. It has only been 6 shorts years since that horrible time and I now own my own home. Believe me this has been one hell of a journey. In a good way. I went from almost being evicted to owning my home, what a ride. I have finally learned what it takes to make my life my own creation, and that is to keep myself happy and not try to fix anything, because there is nothing wrong or broken. At first the momentum was slow going but as I continue to practice feeling good and being happy things are moving much faster now. I love the feeling of inspiration I get as I trust that things are always working out for me. I not only believe that, I know it. Once you get to the place of knowing it just keeps getting better and better. I know that I am worthy, and I know that I am good and I know that I can have, do or be anything I choose. I know now that every time negative thoughts come to me all I need to do is stop the thought and find something else to focus on. Stop the doubt before it starts, so to speak. I pay attention to how I feel about everything. Have you ever heard the expression, “What would Jesus do?” Well here’s a new way of saying that, “What would un-conditional love do?” When you start loving everything and everyone you will understand what I know to be true. When you let go of anger and judgement you release stress and hatred. When we are children we accept all others as equals. That is until we are taught to be hateful and judgmental. We all need to get back to that carefree time and stop worrying about what someone else is doing or not doing, and focus on what makes us happy. If we all did that we would all be living blissful lives. You think I’m kidding? I’m not, and you can bet on that. Words do not teach, but life experience does. All I’m saying is start really paying attention to how you feel about everything in your life. If you are going to a job every day that you hate you can’t be feeling good. Or if you are in a relationship that is full of struggle that can’t feel good either. So you have some choices to make in order to get back on the positive path. You can either, find something about that situation that pleases you, and focus on that, or you can start looking for what you really want and work toward that. Either way you will be moving in a direction that you can figure it out along the way. You’ll know what feels good or not. This is the journey and that is the best part of all. If you look for the fun stuff and keep yourself in a good frame of mind you can’t lose.

Now let’s talk about un-conditional love a little more. You need to love yourself with that same mindset. It is important to be very kind to yourself and not beat yourself up over dumb things. Especially when you first start changing your beliefs. Whenever you have a relapse moment just laugh it off and eventually you will change the way you think and speak. It’s a process, but one worth doing. And if you ever have any self-image concerns don’t focus there. I’m sure there is something about yourself that you at least like, if not love. When you start focusing on the things you like the other things just start getting better too. You will be inspired to do something, like cut your hair in a stylish fashion. Or to buy some different clothes that feel friskier. These are just suggestions but I think you get the gist. If you allow it, your body will be whatever you want it to be. Again, it’s the law. Remember, it’s all an inside job. Your feelings are your navigational system and you should really listen to them if you want to live an awesomely happy life. And get that momentum going in a positive direction by feeling your way to joy. That’s really all there is to this. It’s not hard, but it is time consuming. In fact, it is a whole new way of life. But once it becomes natural to you you’ll know and you’ll never go back the other way again.

So go on now and make yourself happy. It’s the least you can do for the good of mankind. Live and let live and life will flourish right before your eyes. And always remember, there is great love here for you.

Your Friend,

Deb Mertan

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I Found the Fountain of Youth

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I guess it may sound like a fairy tale to most people, that there could be a fountain of youth. But that is because they, whomever they are, have been looking for it in the outer world, when in reality it has been on the inside this entire time. Yes, since the beginning of time we have had access to it and I just now figured it out for myself. Actually, I have always been in touch with my inner child. I would be the adult that would be outside playing hop scotch and kick ball with all my nieces and nephews. At the time, I really didn’t give it much thought, I was just having fun. Oh yes, other adults thought I was silly, but who cares what they think, right? I also really love dancing. I’ll be the first one on the dance floor even if I don’t have a partner. I just go off into my own little world and do what I love. And I sing loudly even if it doesn’t sound good to others, because it’s joyous to me. Haven’t you ever watched a little kid when they’re at the grocery store with their mom? They just sing and dance and enjoy themselves. They aren’t worried about who’s watching, they’re just having fun. They have the key. I guess what I am trying to get across to you is that even though we age on the outside and we will for sure die someday, which I believe is a myth because we are all energy and we just transition to another dimension, we still have the choice to be young on the inside. I still feel like I’m in my twenties and I am way past that humanly. I think I just made that word up, but I like it so, it stays. I see people that are humanly younger than me but have maybe half the energy and spunk that I do. Yes for a while there I fell into the belief that you should act your age, but after my husband transitioned and I found myself single again I decided to do all the things I have been wanting to do and just never did.

So now I’m doing all sorts of fun things, like stand-up comedy for instance. I really don’t care if I make a career out of it, I do it for the fun. And I also go to clubs where I dance and play and make lots of new friends. Oh, I tried karaoke once but it wasn’t my thing. But at least I tried. I may do it again someday but it really doesn’t matter. Life is too short to take anything too seriously. You’ve heard the saying, “Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff.” If you really, really, really think about it, that is the truest statement you can ever hear. What does worry accomplish anyway? It gives you wrinkles and gray hair. It causes ulcers and other illnesses, and shortens lives because stress is the silent killer. So just knowing that, doesn’t it make to want you kick your shoes off and yell, I’m free, I’m free and I’ll never be caged again? Well once you get past the point of guilt for not conforming to anyone else’s rules, and the worry and stress that has been bogging you down, you will feel free. And that’s when the inner child inside you will lead you to do anything and everything you want to do. Did you get that? I said everything you WANT to do. Want, want, want! Stop having to do anything. Stop using the word have. Sure there are things we do out of responsibility like paying the bills and feeding the kids, but those things can be done joyously too. Slow down and give yourself permission to be happy.

Have you ever heard the saying “The hurrier I go, the behinder I get”? Well, it is a saying and it is true. When you are rushing around and getting all twirled up in day to day tasks, you end up getting nowhere. But when you do things with an attitude of ease things flow and you can accomplish more than you thought you could. But, so what if you don’t accomplish anything? You’ve got to stop punishing yourself for leaving dishes in the sink or because you didn’t make your bed. Those things will still be there when you are ready to do them. Stop being so ridged and flow more often. Stop being so profoundly human, which to me means stiff and boring. Be more spiritual, which to me means free and fun. Life is supposed to be joyous so say. “Yes” more often. Yes, I will go to the movies on a weeknight, yes, I will take a weekend cruise, and yes, I will act silly even if others around me scoff. Be who you WANT to be. There is no judge in the sky tallying up all your Brownie points. You will not make marks on some sort of chart that will get you a good seat in heaven. “Now”, is what counts. Wouldn’t it be a shame if you got really old and then looked back and asked yourself, “Why didn’t I do that or I should have done this”? Yes, it would be.

Now I ask you, what is wrong with being nice to yourself? You want others to be nice to you, right? You need to sooth yourself into happiness. Take the time to get your nails done “guilt free”, or take a bubble bath in the middle of the day “just because”. Heck, take a nap if it feels good. Treat yourself like your own best friend. Love yourself like you do your lover. You do deserve these things and you need to see yourself as the worthy being that you truly are. You are not just a human being but a spiritual being as well. When you finally decide, and yes it is a choice, to be nice to yourself, then everything else will just fall into place. I mean everything, money, lovers, and that great vacation you’ve always wanted to take. All these things are available to us all the time but we get too bound up in “Reality” to see it. Stop being so reality oriented and dream more often. Believe that anything is possible and it will be for you. Slow down and meditate more, or pet your cat more often, or take a walk in a beautiful garden. See through your spiritual eyes and know that all is well. I know that deep down you know that you are always taken care of. I know you can think back to a time when you needed something like money for something and when you finally gave up looking for it because that was the only thing left to do, the money miraculously came. Tell me you never felt that. Well that is how it is all the time when you finally give up the struggle and let life live you. Follow the prompts like you would on a video game. Look for the signs that are always being revealed to you, be aware, be awake to the life you want and deserve. Be so in love with yourself that none of the outside bullshit can get to you. It will just roll off your back or go around you like you have a protective shield over you. Life is supposed to be fun and it would be a shame if you let it get away. Be happy in your NOW, because now is all we have. Wherever you are is okay. It’s just the launching point to the next now and the next one. And when you don’t get carried away with the what-ifs you will be much happier.

So how do you get to the fountain of youth? You slow down, you take it easy, and relax more, and pet your cat more, and take more walks and take more naps. Be nicer to yourself and love yourself and everything and everyone unconditionally. Be satisfied with where you are now and be eager for more. Let your inner child out more often.

So now you know the secret to the fountain of youth. It’s there if you choose to see and apply it. The ball is in your court. So what are you going to do NOW?

Remember there is great love here for you.

 

 

Always, your friend,

Deb Mertan

Let Go of the Residue

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My life has been pretty good lately. I have really resonated with the fact that this is an attraction based universe. I have proven it to myself over and over again in the past couple of years. So when I started noticing money missing from my bank account it really freaked me out. How could this be happening? I have been working on my happiness and getting a lot of good results. Things seemed to be moving in a very positive direction, so why was this happening, now? Well after 4 weeks of this I finally broke down and changed my account number and did all the necessary things to get everything back on track, like getting my direct deposits transferred and my automatic bill paying going again. It was a little bit of a hassle but it was worth it. I also started on line banking; which I thought I never would. During all the turmoil I couldn’t get a grasp on why this was happening but now that it was taken care of I looked back at what I may have done to bring this on to myself. I had to be thinking of something that would be making this come to me. Like I said, this is an attraction based universe so whatever you focus on, good or bad, will come to you. Then I realized that while I was daydreaming about the day my millions of dollars would arrive, not how or when or who would bring it, just fantasizing about what I would buy and the trips I would take and so on, but in the back of my mind there was this soft whisper saying, but how do I keep track of all that money? It wasn’t a deep thought, it was casual, just a sparse passing thought. But those are the ones that sneak up on you. It could be a good passing thought or a bad passing thought, but none the less it is sneaky.

For example, one day I was cleaning out my garage. I had loaned out one of my favorite CD’s to a friend and I thought to myself that I should buy a second one so that while that one was out I could still have one to listen to. As soon as the thought left my mind I opened a bag and voila there was a brand new set of the exact one I had loaned out. It was my son’s but he didn’t have a CD player so he left it in a bag that somehow ended up in the garage.

Now that may seem like a coincidence but these things just keep happening. Another time, I had just gotten my washing machine fixed and I made the statement that the next thing I was going to get was a refrigerator. Mine was not staying cold and the freezer was thawing and re-freezing everything so that it was all frost bitten. Again, I didn’t say how I was going to get one or if it would be new or used, I just casually said, in a matter of fact attitude that my next thing would be a refrigerator. Two days later my roommate said that his parents had sold their rental home that was very close to me and there was a refrigerator there if we wanted it. He asked me if I did want it and without hesitation I said yes, anything was better than mine. So I went to work not really thinking about what it would be like, in fact I even forgot that it was coming. When I got home I went to the coffee machine to get a cup and when I turned to get the creamer I was surprised and delighted to see a side-by-side huge white refrigerator standing there. What was really funny is that it was exactly the kind of frig that I had been wanting. And it was nice and cold inside. I literally screamed and jumped for joy.

So, getting back to my story about the bank, I thought that after figuring out what had caused this, my casual thought about managing money, that everything was fine and dandy once again. But gradually I started feeling pain in my right shoulder. It wasn’t too bad at first but it just kept nagging at me. It was hard to sleep and it eventually started affecting my left shoulder. I was going for massages trying to sooth it and my therapist said it was affecting my whole shoulder girdle. I tried topical pain creams and ibuprofen, sitting in the spa but nothing seemed to help. So one day while listening to one of my CD’s on law of attraction there was a story of a woman with pain from arthritis in her hips. She couldn’t understand how she could think positive thoughts when she hurt so badly. It was suggested to her that she could be in pain and feel fearful or be hopeful. It is all about vibration. She was asked, how does it make you feel? The woman answered that she felt restricted and weak. Right then I realized that I was feeling that too. This whole business of being violated made me feel that way and even though it was taken care of I had not let go completely of the fear. It was residual residue that I had been hanging on to. Now you may not believe this but as soon as I realized what was going on the pain almost completely disappeared. I was astonished. It was literally instantaneous. It has been three days now and I have not used any pain relievers, no heating pad or any other type of relief and I feel great. I can sleep and work and even though I still feel a tinge of the pain that was there occasionally it is nothing I can’t handle. Each passing day gets better and I have no doubt that it will continue to do so. The pain was just residual pain that I had not eliminated yet.

That actually reminded me of my mother and how she would be so calm in a crisis, but after everything would subside she would break down and cry. Now I know how that can build up and if you don’t relieve it, it will show up in other ways like pain. So next time you have a back ache or any other kind of pain think about what you have been thinking about and see how fast you feel better. Then you will also know not to think that thought any more. I know this sounds simple, but that is it. The work is to think better thoughts until they become habit or new beliefs. Do this until you get so good at it that bad thoughts will just feel wrong and you will want to go back to good thoughts. You will become addicted to feeling good and you will never be able to go the other way for very long again. The momentum of the joy you create for yourself will surely turn your life around and things will just keep getting better.

As I am seeing, by life experiences, that we definitely do live in an attraction based universe, my choices keep getting more and more deliberate. As per request so to speak. Science has proven that humans use a very small portion of their brains or minds if you will. I think the key is to make your request to the universe or whomever you consider to be the source from which all good comes, then sit back and relax and let the universe do its thing to bring it to you. When you finally realize that life is supposed to be easy, you will feel like a magician, conquering up a world that pleases you immensely and exclusively. You know it’s not the destination that is so delicious, it’s the journey. If you really pay attention to the signs that are being revealed to you constantly, you will start to have wonderful adventures all along your path. And if you really think about it, once you do accomplish whatever it is you are after, it becomes old news and a new idea catches your eye and there you go off to the next adventure. Life is so fun when you let it be. You are the only one blocking anything from coming to you, weather it is a lover or a big pile of money or anything else you are wanting. Relax, stop trying so hard to make things happen. Realize that once you ask for something you want there is a buffer of time before it will materialize. You don’t plant a seed and expect it to grow right away. So let the universe do it’s job and just enjoy the process. And notice the unfolding as you move into the direction of what you want. It’s not about being patient either. It’s about giving it time to grow. You don’t get pregnant and expect the baby to come now. You know it has to develop over a nine month period. So let your desires grow too. And have fun while waiting for the delivery. And stop doubting too. When you ask for something then question how it’s going to come and when it’s going to come and who is going to bring it, you add resistance to your desire and that slows everything way down and sometimes even stops the flow. So just ask and trust and go do something fun while you are waiting for whatever it is you are wanting. Expect it will come just like you know Christmas will come.

Here, let me show you an example of how to really get started. Think of yourself at the ocean. You want to go in the water but it’s very cold, so you tippy toe in maybe up to your ankles, but then you back up a little so it’s not so cold. Then you go back in and this time you go a little further, maybe to your shins, but it’s still too cold. You keep this up until you are fully in the water and you have acclimated to the temperature. That’s how learning how to change old habits or beliefs is. You do it a little at a time until it becomes normal to you. That’s how you stop doubting and start believing and eventually start knowing. Life will teach you through experience so pay attention to how you speak, think and feel. You will be amazed at how wonderful and delicious your life can and will be. Go big and do great things. That’s an order, so go. And remember there is great love here for you.

 

Forever your friend,

Deb Mertan

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ATTITUDE – ATTITUDE – ATTITUDE

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So everyone has ideas of what they want and why they want it. And it is my belief that we can all accomplish what most might call the impossible. And it is also my belief that it is as easy to create a button as it is to create a castle. I know that it may seem strange to a person at first, to accept these statements as truth, after all, most of us have been taught by our parents, teachers and other such authorities to think the way they do, whatever that may be. But I’m here to tell you that you have every right with full authority, by you and only you, to change the way you think, therefore changing what you choose to believe. More and more people are starting to realize that thinking positive thoughts is very beneficial, and asking for what you want is okay. And even though you may think that you have been asking for what you want to come to you, you may be sabotaging your desire inadvertently.

You may be thinking of something you want such as a new home. You are not really in a position to buy one according to what you have been observing in your life, so even though you have the desire you are also doubting that it will become a reality. You see, this causes a split in your energy and your indecision is blocking you from getting what you want. Now once you make the decision and you feel really good about it, now you’re going to see forward movement. You see, it’s not what you decide, it’s how you feel about the decision. Is this making sense to you? Actually words don’t really teach. Until you have had experiences where you have wanted something but weren’t getting anxious about it, sort of like waiting for Christmas morning, there’s no sense in getting all balled up wondering when it’s going to get here. It’s comes on the same day every year. So if we were to treat all our desires like that they could come much easier and much faster. I’m sure you could look back at a situation when something like that occurred. I’ll give you an example from my own life experience. My washing machine had broken down and I really didn’t have an extra $500.00 to buy a new one at the moment. So I was taking my laundry to the laundromat and spending a couple of hours there every week for a couple of months. One day while hauling a ton of dirty clothes to my car, I casually said, “I have been without a washer for too long, somebodies is going to give me one.” And I didn’t give it another thought. My daughter happened to be with me that day, and we were having fun in an odd sort of way, but you gotta’ make your own fun as far as I’m concerned. And as we were filling the 10 washers we needed, an old friend of mind called me on the phone. She asked what I was up to and I proceeded to tell her, as I was laughing about it, how we sort of took over the whole place. She said that that was why she was calling me. She had just received a large settlement from an insurance claim and she wanted to buy me a washer. I was very grateful to her, but as it was happening I knew it was me that attracted it. Things don’t come out of the blue, but they can come out of the oblivious. It is so important that you care about how you feel. Think about what you’re saying and how it makes you feel. Doesn’t it feel yucky when you think that you are bad or not worthy? That is because that is a total untruth. We are all good and worthy. When we feel those good feelings we are on cloud 9, soaring with the eagles. When we love ourselves we can do no wrong. And no decision can be wrong when we feel good going into it. When you do decide to do something, give it your full attention. But let it gestate and grow fully in your mind and wait for the feeling of the inspired idea before you take action.

This is about attitude. No, it’s about total attitude! When you have the attitude of joy and happiness things like that just keep showing up in your life. You know I gave you the example of the washing machine manifesting in a matter of minutes, but I also manifested buying a house the same way. It all started when my landlady called and said she wanted to sell the house I had been renting from her for the last three years at that point. I told her that it was cool and that I would start looking for a new place to rent. She kept apologizing but I wasn’t worried about anything. I just kept the attitude that everything is always working out for me, and I kept appreciating that we had been here for this time and how much I liked this house and that I was sure we would find something just like it, or better. But things were not turning out the way I thought they would, but still I knew something good was going to happen. As people were coming through the house I was living in for the showing I was telling all the potential buyers how lovely the neighborhood was and how great the front porch is for sitting and drinking coffee in the mornings. Finally they had a buyer and I still had not found a place to rent. But I was not worried. My family was a little worried but I just kept saying that everything is going to work out just right. One day while driving I saw a sign that said $1500.00 will get you into your own home. I took the number down and gave them a call. I got an appointment right away and found out that by myself I could only qualify for a loan of $120,000.00. Well that was not going to get me the home I wanted and deserved. So they asked me if one of my kids could buy it with me. I told them that my daughter had just started a new job so she didn’t qualify and my son just started a new job after going to college for 4 years. They said that if he is a graduate and if he has his diploma and transcripts and a letter from his new outstanding job that he could qualify for $250,000.00. So now we were seriously looking for a house buy, but as it turned out, together my son and I made a $1,000.00 too much to qualify for the $1,500.00 down payment program and now they wanted about $20,000.00 down and we didn’t have it. Believe it or not I did not wavier from my thought that we were going to buy a house that we really loved. So the man that was buying the house that I was living in came with the inspector to do the final inspection while they were waiting for escrow to close. I was very nice to them as they crawled up into the attic and looked in all my cupboards and checked every nook and cranny they could find. After they left I called the landlady to let her know they had done their job. And for some reason I said to her, “You know, my son and I are looking to buy a house now. Too bad we can’t buy this one.” I told her about the down payment issue we were having too. But not because I thought she could do anything about that. I really don’t know why I said it. But she said that they had signed a contract with the other people and that they would have to cancel on her. But I still didn’t stop my good feeling that something magnificent was happening.

Now here’s where it really starts getting good. That very night my landlady called and said that the couple that wanted the house had backed out. Again I was grateful but I knew that it was happening just the way it was supposed to happen. She also told me that she had talked to her realtor who had a very good loan officer she worked with and they said that if they raised the price of the house a little I could use that as part of the down payment. I would still need to come up with $10,000.00 but that was okay. I knew if I could manifest all that I had so far, that I could manifest the rest. So I asked for a 60 day escrow so that I could come up with the money. This just happened to be during the holiday season. We were scheduled to close escrow on December 27TH. Here it was Thanksgiving weekend and I still had not one dime toward the $10,000.00. My son was a little concerned because he didn’t understand how I was so calm about everything. I just kept reassuring him that everything was going in the right direction. The whole Thanksgiving weekend I thought about who I could ask to loan me the money and one person kept popping up in my mind. So on Monday morning I gave this person a call and explained the situation to him and without one iota of hesitation he said, I think that will work. And not only did he say yes he also said it was a gift. As I hung up the phone I broke out into the most joyous tears of relief. It was so delicious to hear those words come out of his mouth. So because I stayed true to my desire and did not put any doubt on my path I was a homeowner within 2 months.

So, what are we talking about here? We’re talking about staying in the attitude of joy and knowing that everything is always working out. That it is our right to be deserving and worthy. And we are the only ones that need to make ourselves happy. It is not anyone else’s job to make you happy. We are all responsible for our own feelings weather they are good or bad. So if I were you I would choose to feel good. Everything is a choice so make it and live it. And know that you are the creator of you and you can re-invent you anytime you choose to. Life is meant to be good and fun and joyous. You get one shot at this one so make it a good one. Be nicer to yourself and then watch how the right people start showing up around you that will enhance your happiness. It all starts on the inside. Love comes from within and then pours out onto the world and brings it back in miraculous ways. But that’s how life is supposed to be. So now that you know it, live it. You will find out that fun is the name of the game and winning is a givin’. Go forth from this day on and love yourself like you never did before. You’re going to dig it. And remember there is great love here for you as well.

You will find steps like these in my “Choose a Powerfully Positive Life guidebook

Until next time, your friend,

Deb Mertan

A Deliberate Creator

 

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Please believe me when I say that you and every single living thing on this planet are much more than this physical body, that you see as you. Everything is from the source that some people might call God or your higher self or any number of beliefs that a person might have. There is definitely a spiritual side to all of us that is always with us and always wanting only our well being. If you could just wrap your head around this concept you would see just how much you have been creating by default, and how easily you could start being a deliberate creator. You can actually create the world you want to live in on purpose. When I say creating by default I mean that you are just observing what is and taking that as your reality instead of knowing that you are the boss of you and you can change your old beliefs and start believing what feels right to you and only you.

I can look back on my life now and see how things have always worked out for me. And I know that a lot of it was not conscious. But there have also been times that I was pre-paving by talking about what I wanted and not letting doubt get in the way. But even doing that was not with the knowledge of me working in concert with the universe. I just knew I wanted whatever it was and I was sure going to find a way of letting myself have it. And what I mean by pre-paving is just keeping a positive focus on what you want, and not worrying about how long it takes to get to you in physical form. This is the working in concert part. You don’t plant a seed and expect it to grow over night. You understand that there is a process and that if you tend to it properly by watering it and giving it time to grow that eventually you will have the plant that the seed turns into.

I used to live my life trying to please other people like my parents, or the teachers in school, or the government who are always trying to control the masses with rules and laws that don’t always have the best intentions for the masses, but are put in place to help the rich get richer and keep the rest of the people struggling. I used to think that I had no choice but to follow their rules and live a mediocre life. But now that I’m older, and I have a few experiences under my belt, I know that I can be, do or have anything and everything I want. By reading books and finding ways of uplifting my spirit from the inside out I have come to realize that the only person I need to please is me. Once I came to this conclusion I started on a journey that I know will last a life time. I know now that there is no going back. Once you get a taste of deliberate creation you can’t stop. It’s an addiction that you don’t want to give up. I have been working on myself for years now, but it wasn’t until I found out what the missing piece was to getting my life the way I wanted it to be. It is in the keeping yourself happy that makes all the difference. The way I found to stay happy a majority of the time is by not observing what was happening in the world around me and only focusing on my bliss. Oh yes, and not giving a crap about what anyone else thinks. They are not living my life. They don’t know what truly makes me happy. So why are other people trying to get you to do what they think you should do? Because they are looking for love in all the wrong places. Other people think that by getting you to do what they want will show that you love them, but it usually leads to resentment, which is not a good feeling at all. Now I’m not saying you should never do things for other people, I’m saying to only do it if you really want to, otherwise say no as politely as possible.

I have a good example of someone living a life that was not in alignment with his true self. It was at a time when being gay was very taboo, and even though this person had these feelings he tried to suppress them and live a heterosexual life. After four children and ten years of marriage he finally couldn’t deny it anymore. And when he did come out it turned into a nightmare. His wife was very confused and hurt and his kids didn’t know what to think. His dad was so upset he wanted to kick his ass, but he never did. And because he waited so long to be true to himself he went ape shit and ended up contracting aids. I know that this story is a little extreme but it just goes to show how not allowing yourself to be true you can do more harm than good.

As it is very true that we don’t all want the same things in life, which is good because that would just be nuts, it is also true that we can have, do or be anything we do want. We just have to be clear on what it is we do want and not destroy the dream with negative or contrary thoughts. And patients is a virtue. Just like the seed in the ground, once you plant it you have to know that the process is under way and all you have to do is go on with your life while it grows. Be easy about it, and don’t take unnecessary action. Wait for the inspired action to come. You’ll know when the time is right. There is such a thing as too much effort. Take your time and let the idea take shape before taking too much action. When you are truly following your bliss you will find that what you want comes easier and faster than you can imagine. It’s almost magical. But it is the way it should be. Life is meant to be abundant in all areas. You hit the lottery in so many ways everyday of your life. Just look around at the friends you have and the love that comes from friends and family. Look around and appreciate the beauty that shows up every morning with each new sunrise. The sky is like a giant canvas and every day there is a new painting to observe and be awed by. We all have so much to be joyful about, we just have to realize it and look for the silver lining every chance we get. Life can be so delicious if we let it.

When we worry or fret we block ourselves from the good stuff that is right outside our door waiting for us to let it in. The way to let it in is to stop resisting our urges and going with the flow. The flow of life that feels good and natural. Not forced, not because we have to, but easy and joyful. Relax into life and stay calm. Give yourself permission to rest more and have fun. Speak only about what you want in your life and never look back at what was, unless you want to keep it active in your world. See only the good in other people. And if there is someone in your life that is not matching your vibe it’s okay not to be around them. Your world is just that, you are the boss and no one can tell you how to live except you. Love yourself wholly. Be nice to yourself every day. And always know that the bigger part of you, your spirit, is always with you and is always willing to guide, assist, uplift and love you unconditionally. Yes, once you feel your god given power and realize that life is good there is no turning back. Being deliberate is so wonderful and awesome that once you practice yourself into your new world, you will never want to feel bad again. Yes, there will be times when you may have an un-expected reaction to some situation, but it is so much easier now to pull away from those bad feelings and align with your inner being (person) who is always seeing you as the person you are meant to be. And when I say practice I mean that this is an on-going thing that you will never get done. Because each time you reach a goal that will just cause you to set a new one. And you can’t get it wrong because it is your journey to pick and choose which route you want to take. Which is again about following your bliss.

So I say to whomever is reading this blog, go forth and prosper in whatever way you choose. Be happy and always be nice to yourself. Do everything from the mindset of love and follow your intuition, or your gut as they say. If it feels good do it and be selfish enough to care about how you feel. There is much love here for you.

Sincerely,

Deb Mertan

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Make a Decision Already!

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Clarity is so liberating. Life is like a smorgasbord of things to choose from and when we feel unsure or out of sorts in some way it can feel very uncomfortable. As you may have noticed I have used the word “feel” a couple of times already and will be using it a lot more throughout this blog.When we are in between decisions we should give ourselves a little time to focus on each direction, even if there are several choices. We will know by the way we feel what is right for us at that moment. In reality there is no wrong direction. No matter which way we go it will all lead to the place we really want to be. One way just may take a little longer than another way. We must also realize that there is never just one way to do anything. And you may get to see and experience things you wouldn’t have if you took the other direction. But getting back to feeling, once you make a solid decision you feel better and ideas can flow more easily and you will be undergoing a very good journey. In actuality you are always on your right path but at times you may be going slower and other times you may be moving with the speed of light. Then again when we find ourselves dwelling on our miseries we may feel like we are swimming or paddling our boat upstream. It will seem very hard and not very enjoyable.

I want to tell you a little story about something that at that moment seemed like a disaster but turned out to be a pretty good day. One day I was driving down the freeway with my 7 year old daughter and my 3 year old son. As I was coming to the end of the off ramp there was a loud explosion. I had no idea what it could be. Suddenly black smoke was bellowing out from underneath my van so naturally I thought it was on fire. I jumped out and yelled at the kids to get out but they kept arguing about who should go first. I just reached in and pulled them out myself. Before I knew it there were about 4 firemen there with extinguishers that came from the fire station from across the street. It turned out that my transmission just blew a hole out the top and all the fluid came out causing the black smoke. I actually got back in the van and drove it to a gas station down the street where my brother-in-law was waiting for us. As soon as we pulled into the parking lot the van died completely. Of course we had to call a tow truck to come and take all of us to my favorite mechanic shop. From there we called a taxi cab to come and take us home. While in my mind I was thinking that this was a terrible day my little 3 year old son looked up at me and said, “We’re on an adventure, huh mom”. Suddenly things didn’t seem so bad and I said, “Yes we are son”. Because he showed me a whole new perspective and made me laugh, things instantly got better.

Our mindset needs to be adjusted just like the knob on the radio dial. We need to tune to the station that feels good to us. And sometimes we may feel that we are out of sync or even starting from scratch, but that is just the Universe saying, “Wake up you’re swimming upstream”. Once we switch back to the station that feels good then life will once again start to unfold in ways we never even imagined it could. Sometimes you will hear the most profound statements in movies too, like “The Santa Clause” with Tim Allen. I love the scene where he is at the North Pole talking to Judy the elf, saying, “I see it but I don’t believe it”. She says that most adults forget because they grow out of the belief, but that kids just know, because seeing is not believing, believing is seeing. Or the movie “Halloween Town” with Debbie Reynolds. She is flying on her broom stick with her grand-daughter on the back and the grand-daughter asks her how magic works. She says something to the effect of, I just think of what I want and then I let myself have it. Whatever we focus on the most is what is going to manifest in our lives whether it is good or bad. So don’t you think it is better to focus on what you do want rather than the lack of it? There are always signs and most of it comes through our feelings. I know that it can seem a little weird or uncomfortable to change the way you have been feeling. But if you really think about it everything that is new to you was uncomfortable at first. When you first learned to ride a bike or drive a car or especially use a computer, it was weird and uncomfortable, right? But now it is so easy you don’t even have to think about it. That is exactly what happens when we start being more deliberate and more decisive. At first we have to consciously recognized that we are in that wobbly undecided mode,  then we can deliberately make a decision and try it out for a couple of days and see how it feels. The beauty in this is that if it doesn’t feel good we can always change the station and go in another direction. See, it’s a fail safe design.

Another thing that doesn’t feel good is when we are being judged, especially by ourselves, or judging others. That kind of thinking only holds us back or causes us to be going upstream again, which only delays the good stuff. When I find myself thinking in this manner I have to ask the question, “What would unconditional love do?” There is no judgment in unconditional, so if we just love we will see that that is the only way to truly bring joy into our own hearts. That joy will radiate out into the Universe and cause an avalanche of happiness to all that come in contact with you. Then you will be flowing down stream again until the next time something feels off.

Even though words can’t really teach, they can evoke feelings that help bring all your desires to fruition. And once you get a taste of the happiness and joy that comes with being true to yourself and making the decisions that turn you on and excite you to go forward, you can never go back. Sometimes life doesn’t turn out like you thought it would, sometimes it turns out better. So enjoy the roller coaster ride and go with the flow, whatever that may be for you.

With all my Love,

Deb Mertan

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