Momentum

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I have mentioned the word momentum in some of my blogs, but I really want to impress upon you how important momentum is. Have you ever had a great idea that just gave you goose bumps all over your entire body, only to lose the feeling after putting doubt on your path? Well the reason for this is that you are used to thinking that good things don’t happen to people like you. You probably got a pretty good negative momentum going and it’s very strong. Maybe you picked up the idea that things are not supposed to work out for you from a parent or a teacher, and it’s been stuck in your mind all this time, or is it? What I mean by that is, that we all have the power to change our old beliefs or habits. You know that a belief is just a thought you keep thinking, don’t you? And it only becomes a truth if you let it. So how do you change the direction of momentum? You start one step at a time. Even a thousand mile journey starts with the first step. It is possible, but it takes a willingness to think another thought until it becomes your new belief, therefore your new truth.

Now that I understand how the law of attraction works I can see why people are where they are in their lives. I can tell by the way they talk and by the results they achieve. This applies to good lives and bad lives. When someone is a complainer and acts like a victim they just keep attracting more of the same. It’s just same results with different faces. If you haven’t changed what’s on the inside what happens on the outside can never really change, it’s the law! It always knows what you are thinking and more importantly, what you are feeling. It’s like when you are yelling at someone in an angry tone but saying, “Don’t you know I love you?” There is a mixed message there because the feeling doesn’t match the words.

So how do you get your momentum going in a positive direction? You pay attention. What I mean by this is you see how it feels when you say it or do it, whatever it is. If it feels good then you are on the positive trail, but if it feels bad you need to re-direct your thoughts or words to match the good feeling. For example, if you are hating on someone, you are feeling bad as well. So in order to feel better about that person you either need to ignore them or try to find something about them that you like. It may take a few tries but that’s okay too. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day, right? The more you practice finding good in other people the more good people you will find.

And another thing, you get what you expect to get. It’s like when something bad happens and you say, “I knew that would happen.” Well it happened because you expected it to. So why not start expecting good things to happen? It works both ways.

But sometimes momentum can be so intense that you just can’t stop it. Unless, of course, you come to the realization that you are the only one with the power to do something about it. And there are those people that never do get it, like Jim Morrison of the rock band “The Doors.” He had a destructive momentum going on. No matter how many people loved him and tried to help him he couldn’t stop the drinking and drugs. Oh, he would try to stop, and it would last for a little while, but he would always return to drugs and alcohol. At one point he even went to jail for 4 months because he supposedly exposed his penis on stage, which was never proven, and used profanity. Of course, he was clean when he got out, but that too was short lived. When someone keeps going back to the bad behavior it is because they have not taken the time to change their thinking pattern. They let what they see be their reality instead of creating their own reality. If they understood the law of attraction they would want to change the way they feel about everything.

Now I’ll tell you a story about positive momentum, mine. Although my life is pretty amazing right now it hasn’t always been. And even though I have always been a student of positivity.  I didn’t understand it the way I do now. It all started after my husband passed away. I felt like my life was falling apart and I couldn’t seem to make ends meet. It seemed like I was crying every day and nothing was making any sense. So I actually sat myself down and had a long talk about getting back on track. The first thing I did was look for things on the internet that would help lift my spirits. I found some processes that really seemed to work and as I continued to look for new ways of feeling good, things miraculously started changing for me. It has only been 6 shorts years since that horrible time and I now own my own home. Believe me this has been one hell of a journey. In a good way. I went from almost being evicted to owning my home, what a ride. I have finally learned what it takes to make my life my own creation, and that is to keep myself happy and not try to fix anything, because there is nothing wrong or broken. At first the momentum was slow going but as I continue to practice feeling good and being happy things are moving much faster now. I love the feeling of inspiration I get as I trust that things are always working out for me. I not only believe that, I know it. Once you get to the place of knowing it just keeps getting better and better. I know that I am worthy, and I know that I am good and I know that I can have, do or be anything I choose. I know now that every time negative thoughts come to me all I need to do is stop the thought and find something else to focus on. Stop the doubt before it starts, so to speak. I pay attention to how I feel about everything. Have you ever heard the expression, “What would Jesus do?” Well here’s a new way of saying that, “What would un-conditional love do?” When you start loving everything and everyone you will understand what I know to be true. When you let go of anger and judgement you release stress and hatred. When we are children we accept all others as equals. That is until we are taught to be hateful and judgmental. We all need to get back to that carefree time and stop worrying about what someone else is doing or not doing, and focus on what makes us happy. If we all did that we would all be living blissful lives. You think I’m kidding? I’m not, and you can bet on that. Words do not teach, but life experience does. All I’m saying is start really paying attention to how you feel about everything in your life. If you are going to a job every day that you hate you can’t be feeling good. Or if you are in a relationship that is full of struggle that can’t feel good either. So you have some choices to make in order to get back on the positive path. You can either, find something about that situation that pleases you, and focus on that, or you can start looking for what you really want and work toward that. Either way you will be moving in a direction that you can figure it out along the way. You’ll know what feels good or not. This is the journey and that is the best part of all. If you look for the fun stuff and keep yourself in a good frame of mind you can’t lose.

Now let’s talk about un-conditional love a little more. You need to love yourself with that same mindset. It is important to be very kind to yourself and not beat yourself up over dumb things. Especially when you first start changing your beliefs. Whenever you have a relapse moment just laugh it off and eventually you will change the way you think and speak. It’s a process, but one worth doing. And if you ever have any self-image concerns don’t focus there. I’m sure there is something about yourself that you at least like, if not love. When you start focusing on the things you like the other things just start getting better too. You will be inspired to do something, like cut your hair in a stylish fashion. Or to buy some different clothes that feel friskier. These are just suggestions but I think you get the gist. If you allow it, your body will be whatever you want it to be. Again, it’s the law. Remember, it’s all an inside job. Your feelings are your navigational system and you should really listen to them if you want to live an awesomely happy life. And get that momentum going in a positive direction by feeling your way to joy. That’s really all there is to this. It’s not hard, but it is time consuming. In fact, it is a whole new way of life. But once it becomes natural to you you’ll know and you’ll never go back the other way again.

So go on now and make yourself happy. It’s the least you can do for the good of mankind. Live and let live and life will flourish right before your eyes. And always remember, there is great love here for you.

Your Friend,

Deb Mertan

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That Sneaky Doubt

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I know that it is easier said than done when someone is constantly telling you to think positive. What about all the negative things that go on every day in our lives? We grow up watching our parents worry over money or some other out of control situation, but really it’s normal for things to be this way. This is where positive thinking comes in. It is our reactions to these situations that makes the difference. Think about it, what good does it do to worry or stress out about anything. In fact you are actually doing more harm than good when you react in this manner. Maybe some parents handled things with an attitude of fear and hopelessness which in turn would rub off on the children. But the ones that handled it with, “Oh, this is just another challenge to deal with”, attitude, taught the children that any situation can have a silver lining. Unfortunately more parents were doom and gloom type folks so it is hard for a lot of people to see the forest for the trees.

I happened to come from a doom and gloom family. My father was a big time gambler and my mother was struck with a debilitating disease and died when I was in my early twenties. There are 5 siblings so the fighting was never ending and I couldn’t wait to move out on my own to finally get some peace and quiet. When I finally did move out it gave me the calmness I needed to work on myself and find my true path in this life. I read books, learned to meditate and even joined a gym to get myself balanced in all directions. Things seemed to be going well for me in all aspects of life except in the love arena. It seemed that I was always finding guys that didn’t want to fully commit to me. I felt it was because I was ahead of my time and I just needed to find someone that could understand me. I actually did get married in my early thirties, but only because I wanted children and I happened to find someone that wanted children too. I had been running my own business for about ten years at that time, and was quite successful at it so I knew that even if it didn’t work out with this guy I could take care of myself and a child, so I went for it. We married and settled into a dull routine, and I stayed for twenty years. But one day I woke up and said, “I can’t do this anymore”. By now I was in my early fifties and I didn’t want to waste any more of what was left of my youth. I still felt young and energetic and I wanted to explore life to the fullest, so I left my husband. This was at a time when the recession hit hard and I was barely making any money. I ended up in a one bathroom, three bedroom house with eight other people besides me. This was a challenge but somehow we made it work. I had two teenage children now and things got so tight that I was feeling very low and out of sorts. We were there for a year and a half before I got a call that my husband had died. It was quite a shock, but it was also a blessing in disguise. Because we were still married I got his pension and Social Security. This gave me enough money for my two kids and me to move out on our own. We were all very happy about that because it was a chance for a fresh start. We found a four bedroom house which gave me an extra room to rent out to a boarder, which in turn gave me a little more money to keep my house hold going for quite some time.

The recession was still in effect but we were doing alright for a while. Then part of the Social Security ran out and they were only giving me money for my son. I was still struggling with my business and I felt my faith fading. Not only that but my tenant moved out suddenly and that left another hole in my income. Needless to say my doom and gloom was taking over and I felt hopeless. Then when my son turned eighteen and they stopped his Social Security, and that was the straw that broke the camel’s back.  I was sinking into a deep depression and I didn’t know what I was going to do.

That wasn’t the worst part, now I was being evicted from the house after two years and I didn’t know if anyone else would rent to me with that on my record. I decided to do something drastic. If I was going to turn this mess around I had to feel myself with hope and faith. I began by looking up ways to lift my spirits no matter what was going on around me. I read mantras, quotes and stories of people that had been down and lifted their selves back up. I learned little tricks, like making a list of ten things I loved about myself and reading it every day before I left the house. I would smile at myself in the mirror and say, “I love you” to my reflection. Almost instantly I found myself in a better frame of mind, it took a couple of days to really get the ball rolling, but it was rolling. At first I started noticing little things changing. Like people being extra nice to me and most of them were strangers. Then my landlord called and said he knew I was having trouble with money so he wanted to give me a month’s free rent. I was astounded. Unfortunately I was so far behind in everything that the free rent was just a minor fix, but it was the beginning of my new understanding of positive thinking. As long as I kept this up things could only get better. I made it a rule in my home that there would be no more doom and gloom and we were to all help support each other whenever one of us felt that way.

Well I fell behind in the rent again and the landlord was forced to try the eviction once again. But this time I wasn’t scared and I calmly sat down to think about my options. My daughter was old enough now that she could get us a place to live in her name if it came down to it, and that’s when the miracles really started to happen. All of a sudden my phone rang and it was a friend of mine that owned a rental property. She said that her tenants just gave notice that they were moving and she wanted to know if I wanted to rent her place. Well of course I said yes. By the time my court date came I was ready with a plan of action to get everything in order to go the way I wanted it to, and it did. I did not waver in my quest to get things on the right track and lo and behold everything went according to plan.

Well it has been a couple of years now since all that went down and I have to say that life just keeps getting better and better. Oh sure I have to keep reminding myself to think positive, especially when something goes awry and I start feeling that sneaky doubt try to works its way into my mind, and it will try. That is where remembering to remember that I am in control of me, not the world around me, I am in my own world, just like everyone else is in their own world. I choose to be happy and to believe that anything is possible. I have seen it with my own two eyes and I will never waver ever again no matter how events unfold in my life. In fact I have given my past life new meaning so that I can see the positive that came out of it, like if this didn’t happen then that couldn’t have happened. And the future is unknown so I can make it anything I want it to be. I let my life unfold a little at a time so that I don’t get over anxious and worried. It does no good to feel these ugly feelings when you could just choose to feel good all the time.

So when you choose to be happy and that sneaky doubt comes knocking on your door, just say, “No thank you!” and move on to the next happy thought. Just so you know I have written a whole workbook on how to get to this place in your life, it’s called, “Choose a Powerfully Positive Life”. You can find me on the Amazon Kindle. I hope this story has given you hope that life can be exactly what you want it to be, because it can!  So, until next time…

With all my Love, Deb Mertan

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Weird Like Me

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As I have evolved through my life I have come to the conclusion that the more different I am from other people the more I love me. I feel that the only way for anyone to be truly happy is to be who they really are. And the more you become the authentic you, the more you will attract like-minded people into your life, and that’s a good thing. What prompted me to write this blog was a conversation between my 10 year old great nephew and my 28 year old daughter. They were chatting about her new boyfriend, which is something she really likes talking about, and he told her that he couldn’t wait for the weekend to be over so that he could get back to school to see his girlfriend. My daughter asked what was so special about this particular girl and he said, “Well, she is pretty and she’s smart and she’s weird like me.” This just reminded me how profound children can be. We not only teach our children but they teach us all the time if we choose to take notice. I think babies come into this world already geared up and ready to do great and wonderful things these days. I mean, 1 year olds are grabbing their mother’s phones and going right to their favorite shows and actually watching them. I’ve seen it happen. But not only do we learn from our kids, but through other adults that have thrown caution to the wind and said screw everyone else, I’m going to be who I really am, and if they don’t like it, whomever they are, well that’s just fine with me.
Let me give you some examples of the people I think are living or have lived their authentic life. One that comes to mind is Joan Rivers the comedian, she was a very courageous woman if you ask me. Being a woman in comedy was a rare thing when she started out. But she stayed true to who she really was no matter what anyone else said or thought about her. I heard her say in an interview early in her career that the secret to comedy is to tell the truth. Of course we embellish it a bit but that’s what makes it funny. I have been dabbling in stand-up comedy a little and I have found that advice to be very helpful.
Another person I find interesting is Bill Gates. I can picture him as a teenager mastering his computer skills and coming up with new innovative ideas. And look at him now, he is a very rich and powerful person. But I’ll bet he wasn’t thinking about money, it was just the icing on the cake, oh yeah, a lot of icing.
Then there is Andy Warhol. That guy was way ahead of his time, but he intrigued people so much that even when he painted the Campbell’s soup can everyone found it appealing. Apparently it is true that anything is possible.
I believe that all of these people had one thing in common and that is focus. They knew what they wanted and they put no doubt on the path. They found their inspiration and they followed the lighted trail. They weren’t worried about how or when or who would bring whatever they wanted, they just kept moving forward until the magic started to lead them to the right place at the right time. And then they took action. Remember this is an attraction based universe and when you try too hard to make things happen you usually get all balled up and nothing moves. But when you feel inspired to an idea it is always best to follow that nudge. Sure you can get a little ahead of yourself and things could seem to get a little squirrelly but that’s when you take a step back and give your brain a break until the next inspiration comes. Or think about something else non-related to what you are doing and save yourself from the what-ifs. And you can’t let other people bring you down either. When you have a good idea it’s probably best to keep it to yourself until you really get a hold on it and your momentum is stable and sure.
There are so many others that have learned to tune out the peanut gallery, meaning all others, and do what makes them happy, with great success I might add. For instance Steve Jobs, Amy Schumer, Mike Myers, Adam Sandler, Tina Fey, Will Ferrell, the list could go on and on but I think you get what I mean. Even Albert Einstein followed his own path and lived the life he chose to live. We are not all meant to be the same so why not embrace your weirdness and live the life you want to live, and what’s more deserve to live. Be your authentic self and let others do the same. Love unconditionally, and I mean everyone and everything and that includes yourself. Be ever so nice to yourself and eventually you will become the happiest person on earth and others will want to know your secret. Then you can tell them that you are loving more and criticizing less, especially about yourself, and that you are trusting that things are always working out for you. And that doubt, fear, worry and struggle are now taking a very back seat to joy, happiness, love and all other good feeling emotions so that you keep yourself vibrating at a very high level. If you just keep looking for things to feel good about you will slowly but surely only be looking for and finding those things and those people that truly match the frequency you are on. It’s like tuning your radio dial to your favorite station. When you hear that sweet music that really turns you on you know you are there. And if you stay there more often your life will surely be a joyous adventure. You can’t want too much because there is always plenty to go around. So think big, like the people I mentioned earlier. Don’t let doubt take you down. Stop doubt before it starts by changing the direction of your thoughts and find something else that pleases you to think about.
I am so happy that my 10 year old great nephew is leaning to embrace his weirdness at such a young age. I can see that he is destined for greatness in whatever he decides to do in his life. He has found the key to happiness and I hope he continues to find joy in all that he does. I hope that he will always march to his own beat and feel good and worthy all of his days here on earth and beyond. Just think how wonderful this world could be if we all just minded our own business and only concentrated on our own happiness, wow what a concept.
So are you getting it, that you are responsible for your own happiness, or not? You are the only one standing in your own way if life is not all you want it to be. You have to be happy before you reap any of the benefits you are after. Keep yourself on a high vibration and life will unfold before you in the most miraculous ways and eventually it will just seem normal for things to always work out for you. That is the way it is supposed to be. We knew before we were born and even just after that life was supposed to be good, but then other people tried to make us believe, through religion, government and school that we had to follow their rules and regulations if we were to be a “good person.” But I see a change in a lot of people these days. This is a very exciting time when more and more people are realizing that they are the master of their own domain and that they have the power to be, do or have anything they want and not feel shame or guilt about it, because it’s all good. We as humans are starting to get back to our roots, like nature, and we are now understanding the power of our minds and how connected we all are. We are all one spiritually and when we stop fussing and fretting we will not care what anyone else is doing or not doing. We will be free.
So now you know, you are supposed to be happy and life is supposed to be good no matter how weird you are. Now go out there and show the world what you are made of and don’t worry about if they get you or not. They are just the peanut gallery, what do they know anyway?
Remember there is great love here for you.

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Your Friend Forever,

Deb Mertan

You’re Always Here, You’re Never There

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I once had a boyfriend that always said, “I’m always here, I’m never there.” At the time I didn’t think too much about it. But today as I was driving to work the idea popped into my head that this statement was very profound. It is the truest statement I have ever heard. If you really give it some thought you can see that it makes a lot of sense to those of us who are always striving to live in the now. If I am always here then I must be living in the now. Just like there is no tomorrow, because when tomorrow gets here it is actually today. Oh yes, you can think about tomorrow or the future but you are doing it now. And you can travel to there, but once you get there you are actually here once again. When you pay attention to where you are it is a much happier way to live. You don’t need to justify how you got here, only know that everything that has occurred in your life has brought you to this point in time and it is exactly where you are supposed to be. And you don’t want to think too far into the future because the what-ifs start popping up and you can get cross-ways of what you are wanting.

Life is supposed to be fun. Sure, there are things that we do that most people would consider not fun but if you really look for it there is an element of fun in everything we do. Half of the fun is looking for it and finding it. People spend too much time fretting over things they have no control over and this is what gets them all balled up. The only thing we have total control over, if we choose to practice it, is our emotions. Think about the animals of our world. They do not fret, not one little bit, especially our domestic pets. They are not worried about getting up on time for work or what they are going to wear today. They don’t ask anyone what’s for dinner, they just wait until the bowl is full and then they eat what’s there. They have no doubt that they will be taken care of. We need to feel more like that in order to free up our minds to think about more fun stuff to do.

Or think about it this way. What if you were a new born baby? You don’t worry that you will starve. You give a little cry out to mom or dad and they come with a bottle. And when your diaper is dirty they change you. And besides sleeping, those are the only things that you need. Life is simple and good. If you really stretch your imagination you can see that this is how the universe works. When you start believing that everything is always taken care of for you, you can relax and enjoy yourself. Use your emotions as your guide. The happier you are the more things will go your way. Once you practice this for a while you will never want to go back to fretting. You will realize what a waste of time it is and how bad it is on your wellbeing. You must realize that happiness is a choice and once you apply it to your everyday life you will feel better; not only emotionally but physically as well. I have said this before in many of my blogs that everything starts on the inside. That means that the only way to feel better is to fill yourself with happy thoughts and be as loving as possible. When you choose to share your love and joy you attract other like-minded people it becomes a constant loop of bliss. Why would anyone want anything less than that?

One thing that works well for me is to smile at myself in the mirror, and say, “I love you Deb.” When you love yourself fully you see it reflected back through the eyes and actions of others. It gets more and more exciting to me to see how loved I am through others. And it also reflects back from our domestic animals. They just seem to gravitate to me now in a way I have never known before. It makes me know that I am on my right track and I have nothing but great things in store for me. It is so easy for me to talk to people and play and have fun in everything I do. I look for the right person to sit next to on an airplane or at the lunch counter in a restaurant. When I purposely sit next to someone it always turns out to be a fun time. You may be thinking that you are too shy or embarrassed to talk to a stranger but believe me it is more fun than you think. You’re probably never going to see that person again so who cares if you act silly. In fact, being silly is what children do all the time and they don’t worry if someone is looking at them funny. Have you ever watched a young child at a doctor’s office playing and laughing, while all the adults are somber and serious? That’s because they know that there is nothing serious going on here. They are a great example of always being here. If I were you, I would stop worrying and fretting, and I would kick fear to the curb. Life is so good when you let it be. Give yourself permission to be free and take deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed. Line up with your inner being and see how great things, really are. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated and you will see that others treat you that way too.

I love my life so much that I can’t help but share what I have learned with all of you lovely people. And once you start filling yourself with this everlasting joy you will want to share it too. It becomes addicting and then contagious. But it is better than any drug that is out there. It is a high that will become a euphoric familiarity that you will want to cherish forever. Remember there is nothing serious going on here and you can’t get it wrong and you’ll never get it done. New thoughts and ideas will constantly be coming to you and life will continue to get better and better.

So what are we talking about here? We are talking about being present in the here and now and staying as happy as possible. Making better choices and looking for the fun in life. How much easier could it be? Be happy, be happy, be happy! And then be happy some more! Okay so now you got it. So go do it. Practice fun, joy and love. Life will change in what seems to be in miraculous ways, but in reality that is the way it is supposed to be. And one more thing, remember there is always great love here for you.

 

Forever, Your Friend,

Deb Mertan

 

 

 

Look for the Silver Lining

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Have you ever had things go terribly wrong only to find out later that whatever it was that happened turned out to be a blessing in disguise? That is because we are always receiving what we focus on the most. Whether we want it or not, if we give it our full attention it will surely show up. You see, we live in an attraction based universe, so when you say yes about something, and you let it gestate long enough, without adding any doubt into the mix, you will see it. But if you say no to something you don’t want, you will also attract that, because you give your attention to it. The universe doesn’t hear what you say, it responds to how you feel. Example, when a parent is yelling at a child, saying in a loud voice, “Don’t you know I love you!” it sends a mixed message to the child. The words don’t match the feeling behind them. Or if you were to tell someone that you are sorry for something you did or didn’t do, and you sounded snotty while saying it, that would also not match. Those are two examples of feeling verses words but it also applies to how you feel when you say you want something. Like let’s say you wanted a new car and you casually said, “I’m thinking about getting a new car.” You don’t really hear any resistance in that statement. You could just go about your business and not give it too much thought and before you know it you would be getting a new car. But if you were to say after that statement, “But I don’t see how I could do that” that would throw up a wall that would stop all momentum from moving forward. When you feel light and confident about it things move along at just the right pace. Things come to you when you are ready to receive them. But when you are all balled up asking, where is it, when is it going to get here, you slow everything way down.

Have you ever heard the phrase, ask and it is given? Well that is the truest statement ever uttered out of anyone’s mouth. Sometimes you may think that what you asked for isn’t coming, so you keep asking for the same thing over and over again. Being redundant doesn’t help anything. The universe knows what you want and knows how to get it to you. Just relax and be casual about it. Life is supposed to be fun and if you remember that every day you will start to see a tipping of the scale, from the not wanted to the wanted. But in order to stop thinking about the unwanted you have to start thinking about something else. You can’t just stop thinking about that thing you’re not going to think about. That just keeps perpetuating the thought. You have to look for things to think about or focus on that are pleasing to you, things that make you smile. Of course this all takes practice. Everything that is worth doing does take practice. Everything that you do now took training, and I mean everything, from dressing yourself to driving a car. So why is this any different? A belief is just a thought you keep thinking so why not change the direction of your thoughts. The only reason it may seem difficult at first to think better thoughts is because you have been trained either by others or by your own habits of thoughts to think that way and you have a momentum going in that direction. But if you think of your emotions or in other words your feelings, as your navigational guide you will always know which way you are going. It’s like your GPS system guiding you turn by turn and when you stray it says, “Please return to the highlighted route.” That is what gut instinct is all about. When you practice this and get pretty good at it you will become super sensitive to how you are feeling and be able to return to the route very quickly, before you get any momentum going in the wrong direction. This is all very simple stuff but it can seem hard at first like I mentioned earlier. And just because it seems too simple to have any effect on your mood or attitude, don’t be fooled. It will have a great impact on your life in a very positive way. It can be as soon as tomorrow or it could take 30 days, it’s all up to you and how earnest you are in focusing on what it is you want in your life.

Have you ever seen a 3-D printer at work? They are so awesome, and a little weird if you ask me. I have a friend that has one and I watched it make a cover for a remote control device that’s goes to his drone camera. As I was seeing this thing form right before my very eyes I started thinking about things working out for me in a similar way. It’s like I put my request out to the universe and then I just kick back and let it do it’s thing. I don’t have to keep checking to see if it’s on track because I know it will work on it until all of a sudden there it is. Actually it’s also like planting a seed. You don’t plant corn and then get a rose bush. You know that when you plant the corn seed you will eventually get corn, but only after it takes root and grows into a full blown corn stalk. My suggestion is to know what you want and tell the story the way you want it to be. I know Donald Trump is an odd duck but he has the right idea about how to go about getting what he wants. When he is building a new building, like a casino, he talks about how great it’s going to be and how everyone is going to love going there, and so on. He tells the story he wants to be true. You know you can do that with everything in your life, even the stuff you consider really bad. If you just look at things from your past with a new perspective and find the silver lining, you will feel a whole lot better and things in your now will be able to move forward. And if you don’t get yourself too far into the future with what-if thoughts you will also feel a whole lot better and things will move even faster to get you to where you what to be, or should I say where you want to feel, and that just comes down to staying in a good mood and mostly being happy. You can choose to be happy right now if you really want to. You are so free to choose what you want or you could choose bondage. But why would you choose something that goes against your nature to feel good? I’ll tell you why, because you just got used to it, but now it’s time for a change! It’s time to think on purpose and create your own journey, the way you want it to be. Be your own boss and love with all your heart. Be un-conditional and love even the haters. You don’t have to like or dislike anything anyone else does or doesn’t do but love is a powerful tool that can spread to even the worst people on earth. If more people did more things out of love the world would have to change to a greater place to live. We all have a say in our own lives and our own world.

I guess I’ve rambled on long enough. If you’re going to get it, I’m sure you have by now. Just one last thing before I go, be careful what you wish for because you will get it, whether it’s wanted or un-wanted. Be nice to yourself and love deeply. Sooner than you think things are going to change and the better it gets, the better it gets. There is great love here for you.

You too may get started on a journey of bliss, joy and finding your destiny with my guidebook.

Forever, Your Friend

Deb Mertan

 

 

 

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the main beholder is you. When you feel beautiful, you will look beautiful. It’s like having the ugliest little Chihuahua, she’s blind, has hardly any teeth and sheds like a beast. You think to yourself, “How could I ever love this thing?” But as time goes on you start to notice all the little things she does that make you laugh, and how she cuddles with you when you’re watching T.V. together. Before you know it you are in love and she’s the most beautiful dog in the world. That is how we are supposed to look at ourselves. We need to find the good stuff, like how funny we are, if applicable, or how sweet we are. We need to be the people we want to be and that alone will help us like ourselves more. We need to treat ourselves with kindness and not freak out when we makes mistakes. Mistakes could turn out to be good, look at Plexiglas or penicillin, they were accidents but they turned out to be great! Not everyone is born looking like the Princess Grace of Monaco, she was a true beauty, inside and out. And of course there are those really beautiful people that don’t even know that they are because someone has convinced them otherwise. For those of us that are more regular, there are many ways to show the true beauty that is in all of us.

Now in order to find your true beauty there are a few simple steps you could take to start the process. It involves looking inward and looking for all the things you love about yourself. This is a form of self-love that will definitely stir up more thoughts and feelings about the things you love about you. And even if a person is beautiful on the outside but has a bad attitude they seem ugly to other people. Not everyone sees the same thing when they look at the same person either. For example I think the actress, Kim Basinger is beautiful, but my brother says no she’s not. Of course we don’t know her personally but from what we can see we both have different perspectives. But my brother also thinks the actress Daryl Hannah is gorgeous and I really don’t. So you see it is all personal preference. I’m sure if we got to know those two ladies we would both change our views according to how they acted in real life. Personalities are very important in the way people view others. You can meet someone and at first glance think that they are hideous but after even a few minutes you can change your point of view just by talking to them and seeing that they are a truly kind and beautiful person. It happens!

You’re probably wondering why I even brought this up. But the truth of the matter is I have not always felt so beautiful. Not that I thought I was horribly ugly, but I didn’t think I was any more than average. After starting a regimen of self-love I started seeing myself in a whole new light. I started taking more pride in the way I dressed and the way I talked about myself. I stopped saying anything negative, such as I’m so stupid or I’m fat or anything that would bring my spirits down. When I would catch myself saying things like that I would immediately change it to something positive, like, I’m not stupid, just ignorant of the facts. Or, I’m not fat, I’m a beautiful woman on my way to becoming an even more beautiful woman. Of course at first this sounds foreign to someone that is not used to saying nice things to their self, but in time as you keep changing the negative to a positive whenever you catch yourself, it becomes easier and more comfortable. Practice, practice, practice. That is the remedy for anything you want to change in your life. Little by little if you start and keep using these techniques you will notice how by you caring more about you other people will too. Not only adults but even the smallest of babies will notice your beauty and want to make eye contact with you. You may even draw a big smile from them. Not to mention the animals that will see you as a very fascinating person and want to warm up to you. You see, it all starts with you. How do you want to be treated? Treat yourself the way you want to be treated and everyone else will treat you that way too.

When you are busy being nice to yourself it doesn’t leave much time for finding fault with anyone else so your relationships with your loved ones will automatically improve as well. You may even become an example to others on how to become happier in their own existence. It really becomes great fun when you stop beating yourself up about things you can’t change or have any control over. Look for ways to see the real you and ignore the things that make you feel bad. Life is wonderful when you look for the fun and live as happily as you can every day.

So if you are ready, show the world your beauty by starting with showing yourself your true beauty. It is not hard to do, you just have to want to do it. Be brave and look into your soul and bring out the true you so that everyone can see what a terrific person you are. Love yourself like a fat kid loves cake and life will just keep getting better and better. And never forget that there is great love here for you. So until we meet again.

You will find steps like these in my “Choose a Powerfully Positive Life” guide book

With all my love,

Deb Mertan

ATTITUDE – ATTITUDE – ATTITUDE

attitude

So everyone has ideas of what they want and why they want it. And it is my belief that we can all accomplish what most might call the impossible. And it is also my belief that it is as easy to create a button as it is to create a castle. I know that it may seem strange to a person at first, to accept these statements as truth, after all, most of us have been taught by our parents, teachers and other such authorities to think the way they do, whatever that may be. But I’m here to tell you that you have every right with full authority, by you and only you, to change the way you think, therefore changing what you choose to believe. More and more people are starting to realize that thinking positive thoughts is very beneficial, and asking for what you want is okay. And even though you may think that you have been asking for what you want to come to you, you may be sabotaging your desire inadvertently.

You may be thinking of something you want such as a new home. You are not really in a position to buy one according to what you have been observing in your life, so even though you have the desire you are also doubting that it will become a reality. You see, this causes a split in your energy and your indecision is blocking you from getting what you want. Now once you make the decision and you feel really good about it, now you’re going to see forward movement. You see, it’s not what you decide, it’s how you feel about the decision. Is this making sense to you? Actually words don’t really teach. Until you have had experiences where you have wanted something but weren’t getting anxious about it, sort of like waiting for Christmas morning, there’s no sense in getting all balled up wondering when it’s going to get here. It’s comes on the same day every year. So if we were to treat all our desires like that they could come much easier and much faster. I’m sure you could look back at a situation when something like that occurred. I’ll give you an example from my own life experience. My washing machine had broken down and I really didn’t have an extra $500.00 to buy a new one at the moment. So I was taking my laundry to the laundromat and spending a couple of hours there every week for a couple of months. One day while hauling a ton of dirty clothes to my car, I casually said, “I have been without a washer for too long, somebodies is going to give me one.” And I didn’t give it another thought. My daughter happened to be with me that day, and we were having fun in an odd sort of way, but you gotta’ make your own fun as far as I’m concerned. And as we were filling the 10 washers we needed, an old friend of mind called me on the phone. She asked what I was up to and I proceeded to tell her, as I was laughing about it, how we sort of took over the whole place. She said that that was why she was calling me. She had just received a large settlement from an insurance claim and she wanted to buy me a washer. I was very grateful to her, but as it was happening I knew it was me that attracted it. Things don’t come out of the blue, but they can come out of the oblivious. It is so important that you care about how you feel. Think about what you’re saying and how it makes you feel. Doesn’t it feel yucky when you think that you are bad or not worthy? That is because that is a total untruth. We are all good and worthy. When we feel those good feelings we are on cloud 9, soaring with the eagles. When we love ourselves we can do no wrong. And no decision can be wrong when we feel good going into it. When you do decide to do something, give it your full attention. But let it gestate and grow fully in your mind and wait for the feeling of the inspired idea before you take action.

This is about attitude. No, it’s about total attitude! When you have the attitude of joy and happiness things like that just keep showing up in your life. You know I gave you the example of the washing machine manifesting in a matter of minutes, but I also manifested buying a house the same way. It all started when my landlady called and said she wanted to sell the house I had been renting from her for the last three years at that point. I told her that it was cool and that I would start looking for a new place to rent. She kept apologizing but I wasn’t worried about anything. I just kept the attitude that everything is always working out for me, and I kept appreciating that we had been here for this time and how much I liked this house and that I was sure we would find something just like it, or better. But things were not turning out the way I thought they would, but still I knew something good was going to happen. As people were coming through the house I was living in for the showing I was telling all the potential buyers how lovely the neighborhood was and how great the front porch is for sitting and drinking coffee in the mornings. Finally they had a buyer and I still had not found a place to rent. But I was not worried. My family was a little worried but I just kept saying that everything is going to work out just right. One day while driving I saw a sign that said $1500.00 will get you into your own home. I took the number down and gave them a call. I got an appointment right away and found out that by myself I could only qualify for a loan of $120,000.00. Well that was not going to get me the home I wanted and deserved. So they asked me if one of my kids could buy it with me. I told them that my daughter had just started a new job so she didn’t qualify and my son just started a new job after going to college for 4 years. They said that if he is a graduate and if he has his diploma and transcripts and a letter from his new outstanding job that he could qualify for $250,000.00. So now we were seriously looking for a house buy, but as it turned out, together my son and I made a $1,000.00 too much to qualify for the $1,500.00 down payment program and now they wanted about $20,000.00 down and we didn’t have it. Believe it or not I did not wavier from my thought that we were going to buy a house that we really loved. So the man that was buying the house that I was living in came with the inspector to do the final inspection while they were waiting for escrow to close. I was very nice to them as they crawled up into the attic and looked in all my cupboards and checked every nook and cranny they could find. After they left I called the landlady to let her know they had done their job. And for some reason I said to her, “You know, my son and I are looking to buy a house now. Too bad we can’t buy this one.” I told her about the down payment issue we were having too. But not because I thought she could do anything about that. I really don’t know why I said it. But she said that they had signed a contract with the other people and that they would have to cancel on her. But I still didn’t stop my good feeling that something magnificent was happening.

Now here’s where it really starts getting good. That very night my landlady called and said that the couple that wanted the house had backed out. Again I was grateful but I knew that it was happening just the way it was supposed to happen. She also told me that she had talked to her realtor who had a very good loan officer she worked with and they said that if they raised the price of the house a little I could use that as part of the down payment. I would still need to come up with $10,000.00 but that was okay. I knew if I could manifest all that I had so far, that I could manifest the rest. So I asked for a 60 day escrow so that I could come up with the money. This just happened to be during the holiday season. We were scheduled to close escrow on December 27TH. Here it was Thanksgiving weekend and I still had not one dime toward the $10,000.00. My son was a little concerned because he didn’t understand how I was so calm about everything. I just kept reassuring him that everything was going in the right direction. The whole Thanksgiving weekend I thought about who I could ask to loan me the money and one person kept popping up in my mind. So on Monday morning I gave this person a call and explained the situation to him and without one iota of hesitation he said, I think that will work. And not only did he say yes he also said it was a gift. As I hung up the phone I broke out into the most joyous tears of relief. It was so delicious to hear those words come out of his mouth. So because I stayed true to my desire and did not put any doubt on my path I was a homeowner within 2 months.

So, what are we talking about here? We’re talking about staying in the attitude of joy and knowing that everything is always working out. That it is our right to be deserving and worthy. And we are the only ones that need to make ourselves happy. It is not anyone else’s job to make you happy. We are all responsible for our own feelings weather they are good or bad. So if I were you I would choose to feel good. Everything is a choice so make it and live it. And know that you are the creator of you and you can re-invent you anytime you choose to. Life is meant to be good and fun and joyous. You get one shot at this one so make it a good one. Be nicer to yourself and then watch how the right people start showing up around you that will enhance your happiness. It all starts on the inside. Love comes from within and then pours out onto the world and brings it back in miraculous ways. But that’s how life is supposed to be. So now that you know it, live it. You will find out that fun is the name of the game and winning is a givin’. Go forth from this day on and love yourself like you never did before. You’re going to dig it. And remember there is great love here for you as well.

You will find steps like these in my “Choose a Powerfully Positive Life guidebook

Until next time, your friend,

Deb Mertan