PMS, Not What You Think…

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I know when people hear the acronym PMS they think of premenstrual-syndrome, and you can see why. PMS has been the curse of a lot of women, therefore their husbands and children, have suffered through it too. But that is not what this blog is all about. Yes the acronym is the same but I am giving it a whole new meaning. I am calling it pre-manifestational-syndrome. Let me explain. You know, if you have been reading my blogs, that I am a true believer of self-manifestation. And there is nothing we all can’t be, do, or have as long as we focus on what we do want, and not on what we don’t want. I’ll use the analogy of the corn seed planted in the ground. You logically know that once the seed is planted that there is a process that could take weeks or even months that needs to occur before you’ll see the full manifestation of the ears of corn on the stalk. If you were to get impatient and dig up the seed before it has a chance to grow you will kill the whole plan, dream or process. But if you wait patiently and watch for the signs of the corn coming, like the first sprigs of leaves poking through the ground, and then the little yellow balls that form just before they start forming into ears, and then voila, you can actually pick and eat them.

But wait, now you have no more corn. Oh dear, what to do now? Well if you really think about it we experience this similar scenario all the time. You see once you get what it is you are wanting it becomes old news. And yes it pleases you for a moment but then you find something else to go after. And if you are in this PMS (pre-manifestational-syndrome) state of mind eventually that will manifest as well. And once that shows up we are off to the next thing we want. It’s when we try to force things to come that we kill the whole process. I guess kill is too strong a word, it’s more like stifle. So the trick is to relax and let the universe do its thing, because it knows what you want and knows how to bring it to you. It is so fun to watch as all the components come together to bring you whatever you desire no matter what that may be. It will become a manifestation that not only you can see but others can as well. It’s almost magic. And it is oh so fun when you watch for the signs and know that you are in sync with your desire, and then see it appear right before your very eyes. But it’s not magic, it is the way it is supposed to be. And the only reason anybody wants anything is because they think it will make them happy. And since happiness is the goal, why not just be happy? Appreciate what you have and where you are in life and watch as it just keeps getting better and better. Once you get the idea to stop taking score of where you are and what you have or don’t have, and realize that keeping yourself happy is the path to everything else you want, life will just seem so easy and fun.

Now let’s talk about how to do this. As we all know there are plenty of things out there that can lead us down an ugly path. So how do you stay happy? By looking at something else that is more pleasing. When you focus on more pleasing things you will actually make it easier to find solutions to problems, rather than focusing on the problem, therefore perpetuating the difficulty. Nothing good ever comes from dwelling on the negative side of anything. As you can see there are two sides to everything. There is no dark without light, no good without bad, and no happy without knowing what sad really is. But once you experience the not wanted it is up to you to look away, bring yourself to a happy state of mind, then and only then, address the situation from a place of love and therefore bring a solution.

I know I’ve mentioned this in other blogs, but it bears re-iterating. What would unconditional love do? When we do everything from a place of love and appreciation life just flows more smoothly and we feel good most of the time. And when we have those rare moments of not so happy times we now know what to do about them, and we can bring ourselves back to a better frame of mind more swiftly.

So next time you hear the acronym PMS think about what you have been wanting and if you have been on the positive side or the negative side of it. You will know by the way you feel when you are thinking about it. And watch for the signs that are revealed to you all day every day that will lead you to wherever it is you want to be. Trust that the universe is always communicating with you and is always on your side no matter what. But remember you will get what you think about whether it is bad or good. So go within and find that happy thought, let it gestate, and then move forward. Life is so good when you allow it to be. You are the boss of you so never forget that. Leave everyone else out of the equation when you are finding your bliss, and miraculously you will attract like-minded people into your realm, and life gets even better. Seriously when life seems like it’s at its best it can get better, really! Believe me, I have been experiencing this for a while now, and just when I think life couldn’t get any better, IT DOES! There is no limit in this infinite universe. You are the only block of ANYTHING you want. You have all the magic inside you right now, if you only believe it and then know it. It’s all up to you. Now no more excuses about why your life is not what you want it to be. Get happy and watch all the people and things that you desire fall into place just the way you want them to. This is not airy-fairy chit-chat. This is for real. I know because I am living proof. I am so happy right now and I know there is so much more to come. You can say I am excited about NOW and EAGER for more. But Now is where it’s at and when the more comes it will be the “Now of then”. It’s all happening now, and now and now, get it. Love who you are and where you’re at and watch it grow like the corn stalk that brings you that ear of corn. It’s so fun and liberating to stay happy and let others find their joy without judgement or condemnation. Live and let live is my motto.

So now you know what to do and what to watch for. Be kind to yourself. Don’t get mad when you have an off day. Press the reset button before you sleep and wake up in a new frame of mind. Practice being your authentic self then life will be so amazing.

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Remember there is great love here for you.

Your friend,

Deb Mertan

Let Go of the Residue

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My life has been pretty good lately. I have really resonated with the fact that this is an attraction based universe. I have proven it to myself over and over again in the past couple of years. So when I started noticing money missing from my bank account it really freaked me out. How could this be happening? I have been working on my happiness and getting a lot of good results. Things seemed to be moving in a very positive direction, so why was this happening, now? Well after 4 weeks of this I finally broke down and changed my account number and did all the necessary things to get everything back on track, like getting my direct deposits transferred and my automatic bill paying going again. It was a little bit of a hassle but it was worth it. I also started on line banking; which I thought I never would. During all the turmoil I couldn’t get a grasp on why this was happening but now that it was taken care of I looked back at what I may have done to bring this on to myself. I had to be thinking of something that would be making this come to me. Like I said, this is an attraction based universe so whatever you focus on, good or bad, will come to you. Then I realized that while I was daydreaming about the day my millions of dollars would arrive, not how or when or who would bring it, just fantasizing about what I would buy and the trips I would take and so on, but in the back of my mind there was this soft whisper saying, but how do I keep track of all that money? It wasn’t a deep thought, it was casual, just a sparse passing thought. But those are the ones that sneak up on you. It could be a good passing thought or a bad passing thought, but none the less it is sneaky.

For example, one day I was cleaning out my garage. I had loaned out one of my favorite CD’s to a friend and I thought to myself that I should buy a second one so that while that one was out I could still have one to listen to. As soon as the thought left my mind I opened a bag and voila there was a brand new set of the exact one I had loaned out. It was my son’s but he didn’t have a CD player so he left it in a bag that somehow ended up in the garage.

Now that may seem like a coincidence but these things just keep happening. Another time, I had just gotten my washing machine fixed and I made the statement that the next thing I was going to get was a refrigerator. Mine was not staying cold and the freezer was thawing and re-freezing everything so that it was all frost bitten. Again, I didn’t say how I was going to get one or if it would be new or used, I just casually said, in a matter of fact attitude that my next thing would be a refrigerator. Two days later my roommate said that his parents had sold their rental home that was very close to me and there was a refrigerator there if we wanted it. He asked me if I did want it and without hesitation I said yes, anything was better than mine. So I went to work not really thinking about what it would be like, in fact I even forgot that it was coming. When I got home I went to the coffee machine to get a cup and when I turned to get the creamer I was surprised and delighted to see a side-by-side huge white refrigerator standing there. What was really funny is that it was exactly the kind of frig that I had been wanting. And it was nice and cold inside. I literally screamed and jumped for joy.

So, getting back to my story about the bank, I thought that after figuring out what had caused this, my casual thought about managing money, that everything was fine and dandy once again. But gradually I started feeling pain in my right shoulder. It wasn’t too bad at first but it just kept nagging at me. It was hard to sleep and it eventually started affecting my left shoulder. I was going for massages trying to sooth it and my therapist said it was affecting my whole shoulder girdle. I tried topical pain creams and ibuprofen, sitting in the spa but nothing seemed to help. So one day while listening to one of my CD’s on law of attraction there was a story of a woman with pain from arthritis in her hips. She couldn’t understand how she could think positive thoughts when she hurt so badly. It was suggested to her that she could be in pain and feel fearful or be hopeful. It is all about vibration. She was asked, how does it make you feel? The woman answered that she felt restricted and weak. Right then I realized that I was feeling that too. This whole business of being violated made me feel that way and even though it was taken care of I had not let go completely of the fear. It was residual residue that I had been hanging on to. Now you may not believe this but as soon as I realized what was going on the pain almost completely disappeared. I was astonished. It was literally instantaneous. It has been three days now and I have not used any pain relievers, no heating pad or any other type of relief and I feel great. I can sleep and work and even though I still feel a tinge of the pain that was there occasionally it is nothing I can’t handle. Each passing day gets better and I have no doubt that it will continue to do so. The pain was just residual pain that I had not eliminated yet.

That actually reminded me of my mother and how she would be so calm in a crisis, but after everything would subside she would break down and cry. Now I know how that can build up and if you don’t relieve it, it will show up in other ways like pain. So next time you have a back ache or any other kind of pain think about what you have been thinking about and see how fast you feel better. Then you will also know not to think that thought any more. I know this sounds simple, but that is it. The work is to think better thoughts until they become habit or new beliefs. Do this until you get so good at it that bad thoughts will just feel wrong and you will want to go back to good thoughts. You will become addicted to feeling good and you will never be able to go the other way for very long again. The momentum of the joy you create for yourself will surely turn your life around and things will just keep getting better.

As I am seeing, by life experiences, that we definitely do live in an attraction based universe, my choices keep getting more and more deliberate. As per request so to speak. Science has proven that humans use a very small portion of their brains or minds if you will. I think the key is to make your request to the universe or whomever you consider to be the source from which all good comes, then sit back and relax and let the universe do its thing to bring it to you. When you finally realize that life is supposed to be easy, you will feel like a magician, conquering up a world that pleases you immensely and exclusively. You know it’s not the destination that is so delicious, it’s the journey. If you really pay attention to the signs that are being revealed to you constantly, you will start to have wonderful adventures all along your path. And if you really think about it, once you do accomplish whatever it is you are after, it becomes old news and a new idea catches your eye and there you go off to the next adventure. Life is so fun when you let it be. You are the only one blocking anything from coming to you, weather it is a lover or a big pile of money or anything else you are wanting. Relax, stop trying so hard to make things happen. Realize that once you ask for something you want there is a buffer of time before it will materialize. You don’t plant a seed and expect it to grow right away. So let the universe do it’s job and just enjoy the process. And notice the unfolding as you move into the direction of what you want. It’s not about being patient either. It’s about giving it time to grow. You don’t get pregnant and expect the baby to come now. You know it has to develop over a nine month period. So let your desires grow too. And have fun while waiting for the delivery. And stop doubting too. When you ask for something then question how it’s going to come and when it’s going to come and who is going to bring it, you add resistance to your desire and that slows everything way down and sometimes even stops the flow. So just ask and trust and go do something fun while you are waiting for whatever it is you are wanting. Expect it will come just like you know Christmas will come.

Here, let me show you an example of how to really get started. Think of yourself at the ocean. You want to go in the water but it’s very cold, so you tippy toe in maybe up to your ankles, but then you back up a little so it’s not so cold. Then you go back in and this time you go a little further, maybe to your shins, but it’s still too cold. You keep this up until you are fully in the water and you have acclimated to the temperature. That’s how learning how to change old habits or beliefs is. You do it a little at a time until it becomes normal to you. That’s how you stop doubting and start believing and eventually start knowing. Life will teach you through experience so pay attention to how you speak, think and feel. You will be amazed at how wonderful and delicious your life can and will be. Go big and do great things. That’s an order, so go. And remember there is great love here for you.

 

Forever your friend,

Deb Mertan

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