Welcome 2022!


Today is the first day of 2022, and I feel so optimistic about the future. I see a lot of changes going on around me, and it all looks good. Even though the pandemic is still happening, I feel that as a whole, we all want the same thing, which is to be healthy, happy and in love with life. 

     As I look back over the past year I can see that I have truly accomplished a lot. I feel it’s very important to reflect and see how I got to where I am now. Just a quick look back though, because I am now focused on what my future is about to become. I feel I have done a really good job of balancing my work life, my family life and my fun life. 

     We had a New Years Eve party last night and everyone that was here is a person that I truly love. And you know what? I found out that they truly love me too. So many people told me that they were so happy they know me, and that I have inspired them to be who they want to be. That really is my wish for everyone, to feel comfortable in their own skin. And not only do I wish for everyone to be who they want to be, but for them to not give a rip about who likes them or not. It’s so important for all of us to care about how we feel first, then we can take care of others. I know if you ever flew on an airplane, you heard the flight attendant say, “If the oxygen masks come down make sure you put yours on first before you help others.” You see, if you don’t take care of yourself first, how can you help anyone else? Anyway, that’s what I have found to be true for me. 

   So, I have been practicing filling myself with love, until my cup runneth over, so that I can now say I am so grateful that my intention of touching many hearts has become a reality. I’m so glad that I had an influence in their life. It warms my heart that I can communicate what is going on with me on my journey, that I am teaching by example. Because, as you may know, words don’t teach. It’s through trial and error and trying again that  gives us the experiences that teach us what feels right to our own selves. And never give up on your dreams is one lesson I truly communicate through my actions. I have been writing for over ten years now and it’s really starting to pay off. I have two traditional publishers offering me contractacts for three books. I’m surely grateful to the Universe for guiding me to do and go and meet the right people that are helping me achieve my dreams along my glorious path. You see, I have finally learned that the joy really is in the journey. And that now is the only time that is important. Especially since the pandemic started I feel it’s important to enjoy as many moments as possible. We never know what the future holds, but as long as we are happy as much as we can be in any given moment, we are successful.

     So, now I have a new intention. And that is to teach great numbers of people, of all ages, the magic of self-love and pure love. It’s something I can’t explain, but it’s like I look at everyone and everything with new eyes. And my heart is fully open to give and receive love at all times. It is the happiest feeling I know. It makes me free to be the creative being I am. And my hope is that more people learn to love themselves. Remember, nothing changes overnight. But by being tenacious and following your gut feelings you will be able to succeed as well.

     So, Happy New Year everyone! Let’s make 2022 the best year ever. We deserve it. And remember there is always humongous love for you here.

                              Very Truly Yours,

                                      Deb Mertan

Peace on Earth 2021

         I have learned a lot over the past few years about how to feel my way through life, instead of only thinking about what I desire. I’m sure by now, that most people have heard of the law of attraction. But most people have not learned how to mesh their thoughts and desires together in order to feel the way it will feel when they finally get to their destination. So, if I were raising small children at this time of my life, I would show them by example first of all, but I would also say things like this to them…

     Hello dear one and welcome to earth. I want you to know that in this Universe there are no spare parts. God has a plan for everyone. And love is the key to happiness. Everything is only temporary, love is forever. When we love everything and everyone we open our hearts and our minds at the same time, and that’s when the real magic occurs. Life is eternal because we are all made of pure energy, and energy cannot be created or destroyed, it just is. So you see there is no death, we just change form after we transition back to the spiritual realm. Trust that things are always working out for you, because they are. All is well. And life can seem messy at times, but that’s when we learn the most. 

   I would also let them know not to dwell on the past because it’s over. And not to worry about the future because it’s not here yet. I would explain to them that now is the only time we really have, so why not have as much fun as you possibly can. 

     I would tell them about meditation and how that is the best way to connect to our inner being, our spiritual side that is always with us. That’s how we feel our invincibility.  Life is a game and you can win, even when it feels like things are going wrong, because everything has a silver lining. Look for the good in everyone and you will surely find it. And no matter what you choose to be, do or have in your life is perfectly perfect in an imperfect sort of way. And don’t forget to enjoy the journey.

     Be awake and know that you’re never alone. Look past people’s troubles and see them for who they really are,  a spiritual being having a human experience. And to forgive others, not to make them feel better, but to free yourself from the bondage that unforgiveness brings.  I would also let them know that we are all connected in some sort of mystical quantum entanglement. And that our thoughts are very powerful and they can make the impossible possible. We are all ground breakers to some degree. Just like the people who invented ships and trains and cars and planes. All these things were thought to be impossible until they weren’t. 

     So I say, dare to dream. Dare to show yourself that you are a worthy, happy person. Do whatever it takes to make yourself happy because that is the best path to peace on earth. Appreciate what is and expect more to come. And don’t give a rip about what anyone else thinks about you, it’s none of your business anyway. 

     But alas my kids are grown now. And I didn’t get to tell them all that stuff when they were little. But, you know what? That’s okay, because I tell them now. I show them by example that they are worthy humans and that they count. I love them with all my heart and I know they love me too. And I know that when they have their own children, they will be able to teach them these wonderful truths. And that will start a whole new consciousness in the next generation, and we will finally see peace on earth. And maybe even peace throughout the Universe. But we’ll take it one step at a time. 

     If you liked this blog please share it with as many people as possible. That’s how we’ll get peace on earth, one person at a time.

     So, Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good life. 

                                                      Truly Yours, 

                                                             Deb Mertan


     When Buddha started to wander around India shortly after his enlightenment, he encountered several men who recognized him to be a very extraordinary being. They asked him, “Are you a God?” “No”, he replied. “Are you a reincarnation of God?” “No”, he replied. “Are you a wizard then?” “No”. “Well, are you a man?” “No”. “So what are you?” They asked, being very perplexed. Buddha simply replied: “I am awake.” Buddha means, “The awakened one.” How he awakened is all he taught.

     By Jessen O’Brian and Susan Allen

     I found this on the internet because I wanted to make sure I got the message right about being awake. Even before I knew anything about Buddha I went through an experience where I felt like I finally woke up to who I really am. And from that time on I have been working on becoming the best me possible. Yes, it took a lot of practice and a huge desire to feel a little better each and every day. One day, after doing a lot of crying and worrying, I saw the fear I was projecting onto my two teenage kids, I stopped and said to myself, “This isn’t me!” I just knew at that very moment that no one could change my circumstance but me. I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and look for ways to make myself feel better, even if it was just a little bit at a time. 

     So, now I was on a quest. I started looking up quotes and mantras on the internet. I also found fun little exercises to do to get me out of my rut. And guess what? In just a few short days I could see a light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve told this story many times, but it’s worth repeating. One of the exercises was to write a list of ten things you love about yourself. At first it was a little difficult because I had been practicing not loving myself for a while, so I really had to put some thought into it. I wrote things like I love that freckle on my middle toe, and I love my laugh. And it had to start with “I love.” After the list was finished I read it to myself every morning for seven days, then I would go on with my day. Then I would make a new list for the next seven days and repeat the process. I found that the second list was a little easier to write. I even wrote that I love that I’m a good mother. But it was probably because I was feeling a little more love toward myself and I could feel it from others as well. After only three days of reading the first list I got a call from my landlord. You see part of the reason I was crying a lot was because I was having trouble paying my rent. He had already started an eviction earlier and somehow I caught up with the rent. But now it was happening again. But the phone call was not to collect rent, it was to give me a free month’s rent to help me catch up. I started crying but this time they were happy tears. I thanked him from the bottom of my heart. I continued to make and read new lists for a couple more weeks, and believe me when I say, “It works!” It felt miraculous. I tried other exercises as well. Soon I was feeling a lot better and things just seemed to be working out for me more often. I couldn’t deny the correlation between my new attitude and the things that were happening in my life.

      Even though things were better, I just couldn’t catch up with the rent. But instead of worrying and charging up the old fear machine, I decided to feel what to do. I thought, “Why am I struggling to stay in this house?” Then I thought, “Maybe the Universe wants me to move.” As soon as I thought that the idea came to me that I should ask the landlord to start a new eviction. This would give me about three months to save money for a new place. So, now I would have an eviction on my record, what should I do. I know, my daughter is old enough to rent a place. I’ll live with her. Then the phone rang. It was a friend of mine who just happened to have a rental house. She told me her tennents gave her a two month notice, and would I want to rent her house? Of course I said yes.To make a long story short, I came up with a plan and presented it to the court and everything worked out. I did not get evicted. And after a few years of renting my friend’s house, I actually bought it. 

     Of course I still had a lot to learn, but just feeling better made a world of difference. Since that time I have found all sorts of books, podcasts from people like Oprah, Abraham Hicks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Wayne Dyer and many more. I study as much as I can because this is a lifestyle change. It is the only way to live a powerfully positive life. 

     What kind of information are you letting into your mind? It’s time to retrain your brain. It’s time to become the person you really want to be. As Dr. Joe Dispenza (A scientist and a person who understands the law of attraction) says, we learn in increments. This is because we have been used to thinking, believing and living the way we have for a long time. So when we’re trying to change the way you think, believe and live, it can feel a little uncomfortable, or maybe a lot uncomfortable. Our bodies have a memory of their own. As we are changing the habit of being our old selves mentally, our bodies are fighting to keep things the way they are. When changing into the new you there is a chemical reaction occurring inside, and once the body and mind align we reach a tipping point, and this is when the real magic starts. 

     Anybody can change. By breaking the habit of being your old self, you make room for the new and improved you. Life is your school and your emotions are the key to a happy life. And as far as I’m concerned that is success. When you keep practicing living in the emotion of what you want, or the version of the future you desire, without frustration and impatience, and you stop comparing yourself to anyone else, you will find that what you are seeking is seeking you. You become a magnet to all you desire. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “cause and effect.” It’s up to you to cause the effect you want in your life. You need to do what feels unnatural to you when becoming the new you, until it feels natural. It’s just like anything you learn, it takes practice. But this time there are no rules or plans to follow. You get to make all the choices. Trade negative emotions for gratitude and appreciation. Keep your energy,(your mind) greater than your body until it’s the new normal. Maintain elevated emotions all day everyday because the Universe gives us what we feel worthy of. So, when you stay in a high vibration, good things occur.

     Listen, I know things aren’t perfect all the time, but remember thoughts are powerful. For example: If you are angry for some reason, you hold yourself hostage to the past. Once you forgive and let go of the negative emotion, there will be a freedom that explodes in your life. And when your heart opens up a flow of energy starts to make its way to the brain. Then you will feel more love than anger. That’s when you’ll experience the chemical change throughout your whole being. At least that has been my experience.

     Self regulate your thoughts toward the future. Use your power wisely. Don’t waste energy hating and worrying or being jealous or having anxiety. Again, use your energy wisely. Think of everyday as Christmas day. Wake up and smell the coffee. Change your personality to a whole new you. And remember there is always great love for you here. 

                                                      Yours Truly,

                                                          Deb Mertan
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The only Way to Fail, Is to Quit!

Sometimes as humans we just want what we want, and we want it now. And that’s okay, but it doesn’t always happen the way you think it should, or come the way you imagined it would. Then you start doubting that it will ever come and you give up. That’s when you should take a step back and give yourself a break. The thing that you have to realize is that it is your attitude that brings what you desire or keeps it away. When you are trying to create something you want in your life it can get a little frustrating or make you angry. And that is also okay. When those feelings come up it is best to let them run their course and crash and burn, so to speak. But there is no reason to be upset with yourself for feeling negative feelings, it’s just the Universe’s way of showing you that there is a better path to explore. After giving yourself sufficient time to feel better, by taking a nap or taking a walk or petting your dog or cat, you can keep moving forward. Just keep doing the best you can do for now. Seriously,  that’s all you can do. And everytime you start again it gets easier and better. Every step toward your desired outcome is a learning experience, telling you yes, this feels right, or no, this feels wrong. Then you can redirect your thoughts to improve or continue on the path you’re on. If you keep going you will eventually figure out what you need to know, no matter how long it takes. It’s actually up to you and how you feel on how long it takes. The only way to fail, is to quit. But your desire for whatever it is you want is not going to go away. Law of attraction won’t let it go away. It will keep gnawing at you, which will either make you miserable or it will get you moving toward it. Give yourself permission to feel the way you feel. There is no reason to be perfect all the time. If that were the case, no one would ever need to try anything new. And to create anything new, you are bound to make mistakes. So just pat yourself on the back and move on.

     Here is a tip on how to get or create what you want without negative criticism. Don’t talk about your good ideas with anyone who might bring you down. Let the ideas flow through you until they become so solid that no one can detour you. That’s another reason to pat yourself on the back and even high five yourself in the mirror every time you pass one. I know these things sound silly, but it truly is up to you to keep yourself in a good mood. Actually that is the key to everything good. This is something that has taken me a while to learn. But now I am feeling so good most of the time that it feels magical. Things I barely think about just seem to show up. And I’m realizing that this is really the way it is supposed to be. 

     Listen, it takes a lot of practice to change your mindset, especially if you have been on a negative spiral for a long time. This is caused by the law of attraction. The only law that matters, by the way. You always get what you focus on, good or bad. So don’t you think it’s about time to change those negative thoughts into positive ones? Once you figure out how to start thinking better thoughts, you will definitely feel a new vibe running through your veins. But no one feels good 24/7, and that is perfectly perfect. The trick is to keep reminding yourself that you can change how you feel, and practice every chance you get. Then when things pop up that seem to be wrong, because you are practicing better thoughts, you will be more solution minded than problem minded. 

     Now, how do you get yourself moving forward toward positive thoughts after years of the opposite? Well, you can start by paying attention to how you feel. You know, it’s okay to say no. Yes, when someone asks you to do something, and you feel in your gut that you don’t want to do it, it’s okay to say no. But you care about this person and you don’t want to disappoint them. Or it is some authority figure, like a parent, but you’re an adult now, you can make your own decisions. This is where caring about how you feel is crucial. If you’re only doing something for someone because you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, you’ll just end up resenting the other person or taking it out on yourself by being angry. But if you politely say no, you will feel better and they will get over it. You’ll see that when you start caring about how you feel, people will respond in kind. And the ones who don’t will just go away. Remember, the law of attraction will always bring you what you feel in your soul. The deeper the feelings are the faster what you want will come. Feelings are the Universe’s way of letting us know that we are on the right track. It is a communication that is undeniable when you truly trust and let life flow through you. Do things that make you happy. Life is too short to wait for the right time. People say, “I’ll be happy when…”, but that may never come. Being happy now is all there is. Have more fun and treat everyday as a new beginning. And most importantly, be true to yourself. As Abraham-Hicks says, “If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a hell no”. I have to say I agree with this statement wholeheartedly. In fact I have made it my motto. It really helps me make decisions a lot quicker.  And you know what, it works.I really feel it in my gut. The more you do only what you want, the more worthy you will feel, and this is self love. This is the most important LOVE of all. Remember, I said this is an attraction based Universe. What you put out, you get back. So put as much love out to the Universe as you can. Love just because it feels good. If you continue to practice love, eventually your cup will runneth over and life will feel magical to you too. 

     There are many different methods to practicing love. One way is to pet your cat, if you have one, and you love it. I know that when my cat and I are cuddling I feel an almost overwhelming sense of love flowing between the two of us. Animals are the easiest ones to feel love from because they are pure love.  Another way to feel yourself with love is to do something you are passionate about. It could be painting, or writing, or sculpting, or playing the piano. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as it fills your joy bucket. Being happy is definitely a form of self love.

     Here is another suggestion on how to find joy more often. When you have a task to do, it is best to line up with it vibrationally. Like tuning a radio, you have to dial into the right station. For example: When you have a sink full of dishes, and there are no clean ones left, you know you have to eventually wash them, right? But it’s not your favorite thing to do. So you need to talk to yourself and say, “I sure do like it when the kitchen is clean. It always makes me feel good after the task is finished. And I do like being able to get a dish out of the cupboard when I’m hungry”. Then you start feeling inspired to get that job done. You can do this with everything in life. Just find a way to make it fun or at least not so bad. And being clean and organized is a good way to feel good anyway. 

     Lining up with something is also known as pre-paving. Whether it is doing the dishes or going out dancing it is important to pre-pave the undergoing, and seeing it as a playful experience. When I’m putting dishes in the dishwasher, I think of it as a puzzle. I try to fit as much in as possible in a very organized manner. I know it sounds silly, but that’s the point. When you’re having a good time doing whatever it is you are doing, you are loving. 

     Now I know that when I’m going out dancing I am going to have a great time. I expect it to be fun and so it is. That’s an easy one for me. But it shows that even when you are going to do something fun, you can still pre-pave the experience by expecting it and it becomes even more fun. 

     You see, what you are aiming for, or at least I hope you are, is to have so much love flowing from you that you can honestly say, “My cup does runneth over with pure love”. It will probably, no, most likely, no, most certainly, take time to fill your cup, but that doesn’t matter. The fun is most certainly in the journey, so pay attention to all moments of your life. This way you have a chance to redirect your thoughts and let the Universe or whomever you believe in, show you the path to get anything your heart desires. Find as much joy as you can in every moment of every day. I promise you that failure is not an option when you live your life in this manner. But if being happy and in love with your life is not something you’re after, that’s okay too. I just won’t be running into you any time soon, because my happiness is like a protective shield. It repels negativity so well I don’t even notice it. But that’s just me.

     Okay , let’s go back over the message in this blog. Do you know what it is? Okay, I’ll tell you. You only fail if you quit! But you can’t quit because the Universe won’t let you. You will always have that desire once you put it out there. So you may as well go with the flow and stop struggling to do things you don’t even like doing. And to keep your cup overflowing with pure love. Just love everything and everyone. It works. As simple as it sounds though, remember it does take practice, conscious and continuous practice. Until your subconscious mind believes and takes over automatically. You see, your subconscious mind doesn’t reason or ask why, it just believes what you tell it and acts out everything you focus on. So do yourself a favor and focus on only what you want and leave the rest out. You are the only one that matters when it comes to your happiness. Everyone else is responsible for their own lives. So everyone is off the hook of trying to keep anyone else but themselves happy.  

     Now go get your prize! Which is the real YOU. And show the world that  love, especially self love, is the key to true happiness and a joyful life. And of course, there is always great love for you here.

                                                           Truly Yours,


Be Your Own Hero

     I’m sure this blog title sounds a little weird to most people. But for me it makes perfect sense. If you think about it, you do nice things for yourself everyday. You take a shower, you brush your teeth, you feed yourself, and some of you even exercise. But you might not even think of those things as hero acts. Just think about what you would be like if you didn’t do any of those things. YUCK! So, you see what I mean?

     One way I am my own hero is to keep myself as happy as I can every day. I have been studying how to do this for some time now, and I feel I’m finally really getting it. I’m now realizing how important it is to feel my way through life. This is an attraction based Universe, and the way we attract is by how we feel. When you keep yourself in a joyful mood you attract wonderful things. And the better you get at this, the better everything gets. It all has to do with where we put our focus. Remember, where focus goes, energy flows. And again, energy can’t be created or destroyed, it just changes form, and that includes you. Okay, now that we’ve established that it is important to keep ourselves in good moods, how do we do it? Well, It takes practice and putting positive attention on what you desire. When you pay attention to how you feel, you will know for certain if you are being your authentic self, or if you are reacting to something someone else did or said. It is impossible to control how others act or feel. So it is important to ignore the naysayers and follow your own bliss. What I mean is, you have to give yourself permission to be happy and don’t listen to anyone who puts you down. They don’t count. Only what you think and feel matters. You know, you can talk nicely to yourself, and that is a very good thing to do. Treat yourself like your own best friend. And give it time to work. You won’t change your mindset overnight. But the more you practice the better it will feel. And when that happens you change the whole dynamic of your reality. You truly can be, do or have anything you desire in this lifetime. As long as you believe it you will keep seeing results and then you know that you are on your right path. 

     Now it’s true that we don’t all want the same things out of life. Wouldn’t that be crazy if we all wanted the same things and we had to fight each other to get it? I can’t even imagine that. But luckily we are all so different that this Universe is able to help each of us get what we want. But you have to know what it is you truly want and then trust that the Universe will guide you to the right place at the right time and to talk to the right people. And when you get to that place you will understand how powerful you are and that life is supposed to be good. 

     You know that there are no spare parts in the Universe. You were brought here for a purpose. And even if that purpose is to be the ice cream man, who brings joy to all who purchase one of your many delicious flavors of ice cream, then so be it. Whatever your purpose is can only be known by you. And if it feels good then that’s all you need to know. 

     I know this sounds too easy, but it truly is easy when you give yourself permission to follow your bliss. Some people want to be rich and travel the world. Some just want to be comfortable, and believe it or not, some choose to be homeless and free from society’s rules. We all have choices to make, but only you will know what feels right. And when making choices I suggest, like Abraham Hicks says, if it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a hell no. It may turn into a hell yes later when you have fully investigated whatever it is. But don’t rush, take the time to fully align to an idea or situation before taking the leap. What I mean by aligning is to really feel what it will feel like, and see if it’s a good fit , and if it is then go for it. If not then put it on the back burner and let it simmer until it makes sense one way or the other. 

     Another way to be your own hero is to take care of the things that will help you feel good physically. Let’s say your feet have been hurting and it would really be a good idea to buy some new shoes. But the shoes you need are expensive so you keep putting them off. But you’ll spend money on things like a casino trip or splurge on some other silly thing. That is not the way to be nice to yourself. You need to buy the shoes so that you will feel good and this will help you be able to think better and do better in all aspects of your life. There are so many ways to be nicer to yourself. Only you know what those things are. Meditation is another way to be nicer to yourself. By taking the time to relax your mind and letting new ideas flow through you, you can figure out what it is that will truly make you happy. Try doing less so that you are free from stress. When you are trying too hard to make things happen you inadvertently keep yourself stuck, so to speak. But when you rest you let the good ideas in and life gets better and better. 

     So what have we learned here? I hope you got the meaning of being your own hero. You just have to be nicer to yourself. And let yourself be, do or have whatever it is you desire. And just for good measure, please keep taking showers and brushing your teeth. That will always be a good thing. And remember there is always tremendous love for you here. 

                                    Your good friend,

                                           Deb Mertan 

If You Don’t Ask, You Don’t Get

     If you don’t ask, you don’t get, is just my version of a saying that has been around forever, which is, “Ask and it is given”. Or,  “Knock and the door will be open to you”.  There are so many ways to say this same thing. You reap what you sow, birds of a feather flock together. These are just reminders that when you have a desire and a belief that desire will manifest, and it must come to you. I have found that asking can come in different ways. Maybe you are a prayer person. When you pray you are asking for something. And that is fine, but don’t pray in a begging manner. When you pray, try believing that what you are asking for is already done. For example: Thank whomever you are praying to as if it has just been handed to you. That way it shows that you believe you deserve whatever it is you are asking for. Even if it is a healing for you or someone else, thank the Universe or God or your higher self, for making it so. 

     Sometimes you may have something you have to do like firing an employee, but that is something you don’t like doing. Then miraculously that employee comes to you and says, “I’m not happy here so I’m quitting”. Inadvertently you were asking for a solution to your problem and the Universe helped you get what you wanted in the simplest way possible. I’m sure you have experienced something like that in your life. One thing that happens to me a lot is my work schedule rearranging itself. I’ll have an opportunity to do something fun, but I’ll have work on that day. But I don’t fret about it. I trust that the Universe will make it so that I can do whatever it is. Then suddenly the day will be cancelled and I’ll be free to go have fun without feeling guilty for cancelling the day myself. I have a house cleaning service, and I’d rather have a customer cancel on me than me cancelling on them. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I do rearrange my schedule sometimes, but it is so much fun to see how the Universe works in such mysterious ways. Or I’ll have a phone call to make, but I can’t find time to make it. Or when I think about it, it’s too late in the evening. Then suddenly that person will call me and I can tell them what I need to say. Have you ever had that happen? I’ll bet you have. The best thing to remember is that things are always working out for you. The trick is to not worry and just let it come naturally. Life is supposed to be good for everyone. We all have choices to make. You can ask yourself, “Do I want to be happy, or do I want to be miserable”?It really is as simple as that. 

     Okay, I know that sometimes there will be things to be sad about, but the more you practice being happy, the less those things will occur. And then when they do you’ll be better equipped to handle whatever it is. 

     And prayer is not the only way we ask for things. Actually we are asking all day every day. Have you ever wanted something like a new car? You might look it up online or even go to the car lot and try one out. You check out all the great features it has to offer, and daydream about how it will feel when you actually have it. You don’t know how or when it will come, you just enjoy thinking about it. Then one day you bash into the back of the car in front of you on the freeway. No one is hurt but the car is totalled. At first you are upset, but then you find out that the insurance is going to pay off the old car and pay you enough money to get that new car you’ve been dreaming about. A week later you are driving off the lot in the exact car you have been wanting. This may seem like a fairy tale, but that is exactly what happened to me. Not only did I get the car I wanted, but it has every bell and whistle you can think of. And yes, I couldn’t be happier.

     I have learned over the past few years that I truly can be, do and have everything I desire. When you allow the Universe or God or whomever you believe in, to bring you what you want, it will come naturally and easily. And when you truly love yourself you will be able to let go of the struggling and let the higher power help you with all your desires. It sounds simple because it is simple. As humans we make things much harder than they have to be. It’s like if it’s too easy we think we didn’t do enough to deserve it. But, you know what? We all deserve to be happy. It’s up to each and every one of us to decide what our happiness is, and give ourselves permission to have it. God didn’t put us here to suffer. That is purely man made bull doo doo. Laws are made by man. Saying sex is dirty is made by man. And marriage is another man made rule. Do you think cave people thought they had to be married before they had sex? No, the cave man picked a mate and off they went to create more cave people. I’m not sure how long it took the cave people to figure out where babies came from, but it’s a good thing they kept having them or we wouldn’t be here.  I listen to Abraham Hicks a lot. And they say that they would change the wedding vows to say, “I like you pretty good, let’s see how it goes”, instead of “till death do us part”. I totally agree with that statement. What I’m trying to say to you is that, if it feels right to you, then it is right. 

     For example: In the not so distant past, people were put in jail for a very long time just for being gay. We’re only now starting to realize that being gay is not a choice, it is born in a person. Society has made people feel that they are bad or improper. But that is far from the truth. Gay people are spiritual beings just like we all are. And they have every right to be who they are and live as happy a life as anybody else. 

     Or what about people of color? Do you think they chose to be different so that some person who thinks himself superior can come along and whip the skin off their back? No, they are people that want to live their most authentic lives. And if people who think they are superior would try to see the benefit in letting everyone live a happy life, we could all live harmoniously together. 

     As for me, I love learning about different cultures. I think it’s fun, and fun is the name of the game as far as I’m concerned. 

     So, what is the gist of this blog? Well, it’s that we all need to relax and let life come to us instead of chasing whatever it is we want. Give the Universe a chance to show you how it loves to help you with whatever it is you want. Trust that what you want is okay, and that you deserve to be happy no matter what. And life is supposed to be good for all of us. 

     I hope you enjoyed this blog. I enjoyed writing it. I also hope you take heed and be your authentic selves. And remember there is always tremendous love here for you.

                                                     Your true friend,

                                                             Deb Mertan 

Was it Unfortunate?

     Have you ever had something happen that seemed to be bad, but later realized that it was exactly the thing that had to happen or at least it was not as unfortunate as you thought? When something happens that doesn’t please you, stop and think about how it might help you in some way. Instead of thinking it’s unfortunate to lose your job and become a stay at home dad, think about how fortunate it is that you get to spend time with your kids. After all they will only be little for a short time. They grow so fast and you can’t get those years back. And by spending quality time with them while they’re young you may have really great relationships with them as adults. You know, everything is temporary anyway. 

     And instead of saying you can’t win them all, try saying you can win them all. Give yourself permission to believe that anything is possible and it will be. You know what Henry Ford said, “ Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right”. And that’s when you’ll know that you are the creator of your own life. And knowing is the greatest feeling in the world. Or maybe even the Universe. Knowing that you can and deserve to be, do or have anything you desire is the ultimate goal.

     So much would change in your life if you could just give it a new meaning, whatever IT is. Everytime you change something from a can’t do to a can do you impress upon your subconscious mind that anything is possible. Now, it does take practice, and you have to pay attention if you truly want to be a happy person. And believe me, being happy is the only way to fly. And who doesn’t want to fly?And being happy is what we all want anything for anyway, right? But the trick is to be happy first and things will just work out for you. 

     Here’s a trick for staying happy as much as possible. Think and talk and day dream about things that you are wanting. Make sure they are things that please you and never put the, “but I don’t want blah blah” in the equation. If you do start to go down that path, pay attention, as I mentioned earlier, and be gentle with yourself, and change the thought to something that does please you.

     Have you ever had to distract someone, like a child that wants something you don’t want them to have? You kindly point them in another direction, right? Yes, and that’s what you can do with negative thoughts and emotions. Change direction to something you like. If you keep paying attention and redirecting, you will eventually get so good at it that you will rarely go down that rabbit hole, so to speak. You know you can do this for free and it will bring you great riches anyway. You don’t have to spend money to make money or be a college graduate to generate wealth. You just have to believe and then know that you are, as we all are, a deserving human. And that is because you are a spiritual being having a human experience. And spirit is energy. And energy can’t be created or destroyed, it just is. 

     Have you ever heard the saying, “It was a blessing in disguise”? Well most things are. You have to look for the silver lining in every situation. When we are prepared to notice the good in everything, the good will show itself to us. Expect that everything is working out to our advantage. I know it may not seem like it, but give it a shot next time something seems to be going wrong, and see if you can find the silver lining. When you are purposely looking for the good, you will surely find it. 

     Now is as good a time as any to start being a happy person. Be loving and kind to yourself and life will unfold in miraculous ways. We all deserve to enjoy life in any way that pleases us. So go out there and show the world that you love yourself and  everyone and everything as well. And remember there is always great love for you here. 

                                                Very truly yours,

                                                       Deb Mertan

Limitations Are Just an Illusion

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     How many of you believe that there is a limit on how much money you can make? Well, I’m going to guess that it’s a whole lot of you. It’s not unusual to think that you have to work for an hourly wage that barely covers all the necessities of life. It’s like we think that there is a finite pie in the sky and we each get a small sliver of it. But you know what, that’s hogwash. And you know what else, no that’s it, it’s hogwash. What I mean is that it is not necessary to live paycheck to paycheck, because the Universe is infinite, and there is plenty to go around for all of us. 

     Let’s take money out of the equation for a minute. Think about all the infinite abundance there is around you right now. From birds in the sky to grains of sand on the beach, there are infinite amounts. You couldn’t count all the grains of sand if you wanted to, but there they are for all to enjoy. Or think about blades of grass and all the different trees there are. Wow, can you imagine trying to count all that? Did you know that there are over 2,000 varieties of palm trees alone? I know it sounds ridiculous but it’s true. And did you also know that everything and everyone is energy, and energy cannot be created or destroyed, it just changes form. We all have that source energy right inside of us. We are all part of this amazing soup called life. As long as you have a mind you can think anyway you want to. You can be, do or have anything you want, and that includes lots of money, if that is your desire. Abundance is all around us, and we just need to realize that the only limits are the ones we put on ourselves. 

     For me, I choose to believe that there is enough to go around. I believe that money can come from many places, not just a job. Who knows, maybe I’ll get a big inheritance, or I’ll win the $7,000 a week for life from the Publishers Clearing House. Or a traditional publisher will find my books and take me on as a client. Money can come in many different ways. Maybe you have a new idea that the public will go ga-ga over and make you a millionaire overnight. These things happen. But don’t get me wrong, if you are comfortable living paycheck to paycheck that is perfectly perfect. But if you feel like there is more out there for you, then this is what I suggest you do, meditate.

     Okay, I know a lot of you might think that meditation is weird or scary. But this is the surest way to get in touch with your inner being. And it only takes about 15 or 20 minutes a day. I’ll tell you it has made a world or difference in my life. It clears your thoughts and lets the good ideas come in. You can do this on your own or you can use guided meditations of which there are hundreds if not thousands on the internet. Some of my favorites are from Abraham-Hicks, Louise Hay and Brian Scott from the Reality Revolution. I just find a quiet spot, usually early in the morning before anyone else gets up. I put my earphones in and just listen. I can feel my spirit within becoming more and more relevant in my day to day activities. It’s not hard to do but it does take practice and dedication. 

     Another thing I do is, I tell my story the way I want it to be. For example, I talk about how wonderful my mansion is. And as long as I keep talking about how fun it is and how we feature weddings and company picnics and other such events it feels good. But I don’t talk about how it will come or who is going to bring it or any other negative feelings about it. That would split my energy and it would for sure take forever to get here, or maybe it would never come. And really it doesn’t even matter if it ever comes because it gives me great pleasure to imagine it, and create it in my mind. 

     Okay, and the next thing is to be happy. When you find ways to keep yourself happy it makes things come a lot faster and a lot easier. Manifestation is for sure when you only think about what you want and leave the rest out of the equation. So when you are telling your new story and you find yourself going down the rabbit hole of how and when it will come and who is going to bring it, stop and change the subject for the time being to something else that pleases you. As you continue to think in this new way you will start to notice things coming to you in small ways at first and this helps your belief that there truly is a law of attraction and that there is no limit to what you can accomplish. Then your beliefs will morph into knowing. Your resistance will soften and the truth of the Universe will reveal itself to you. You will feel magical and invincible. Life is supposed to be good and it is when you let it be. And remember the only limits are the ones we put on ourselves. So now is the time to open our minds to the vast and infinite Universe and start dreaming about what truly makes us happy, and let ourselves believe and then know that we are the creators of our own worlds.  

     When I first started this journey I was only manifesting small things like parking spots or all the traffic lights turning green. Then I started on bigger things like cars and a house. I realize now that I don’t have to have a huge amount of money just sitting in the bank to get what I want. I just start imagining whatever it is and the money just seems to show up. I never worry anymore either. And I never rush. I just keep myself  calmly knowing that everything is always working out for me and it always does. And sometimes it seems like something has gone wrong when in reality it is just right. For example, just recently I have been looking at the Chevy Traverse. I have been driving a nice car but I was wanting something bigger. As I was driving home from work the traffic was stop and go, when a thought came to me that if the car behind me hit me I would hit the car in front of me and that would total my car. I don’t know why this thought came to me but just about a minute later I did total my car. Luckily no one was hurt. And my insurance got right on it. One week later I got my Traverse. Now I’m not suggesting any of you go out and wreck your car just to get a new one, but I am saying the law of attraction is real and things can come in many different ways. But you have to pay attention to your thoughts and what comes to you as a result of those thoughts. When you start connecting the dots you will get a true sense of how this all works. 

     So now you know that we are all powerful beings and that there is no limit to what we can do. Now go out there and create what you want and deserve. And remember there is always great love for you here.


Deb Mertan


Get Out of the, “I’ll Be Happy When” Stage

     Have you ever thought, “I’ll be happy when I get that new car, or when I get the right job, or when I get to go on that bitchin’ vacation”? Well that may be true to some extent, but that happiness only lasts for a moment and then you’re off to the next thing. You see, that is backward thinking, because happiness is a choice, not a thing or an event. Happiness is something that comes from within. I’m sure you all know someone that is always smiling even though they don’t have a lot of money, or anything for that matter. They seem to have an air about them that just feels good just being near them. It’s an energy you just can’t explain. And I’m also sure you know of someone that always sees doom and gloom everywhere they go. And the energy seems to get sucked out of the room every time that person enters it. And it’s not that the doom and gloom person is bad, it’s just that they are disconnected from the source from within. Some people call this source their inner being, or the God within, or their soul. Whatever it’s called it is all the same thing. It’s that invisible energy that flows to everyone and everything. The birds feel it, the cats and dogs feel it, even the plants feel it. And it keeps our blood pumping through our veins. It’s what keeps our solar system turning in perfection. Shoot, if you can’t find happiness in all that maybe you are doomed. Just kidding, nobody is doomed, just temporarily disconnected. And that is a good thing to know. Now, you can do something about that. 

     First of all , if you want to feel good, you need to stop beating up on yourself. You need to know that you are a unique individual with something the world needs and wants. You may not know what that is just yet, but once you start letting yourself find joy you will figure it out. And this will lead to all the other things you desire. But you won’t get those things to make you happy, you’ll get them because you are happy, and they just enhance your joy. 

     Happiness comes from our imagination. When you can imagine how it feels to be in that new car or a new house, and you don’t put any doubt in your way, those things will come with ease. But again, happiness has to come first. 

     The way I keep myself happy is through appreciation. I love sitting on my front porch, listening to the birds chirping to each other. It’s so peaceful and it makes my heart sing. I love petting my cat and he loves it too. When I’m driving my car I love looking at the beautiful trees and flowers. There is so much beauty and joy around us, and this is just the beginning stage of learning how to feel good and happy. 

     The happier I feel, the easier it is to imagine a new car or a new house. And lo and behold I do have a new car and I bought a home. And you know what, it was easy. I just never let doubt get in my way. I just kept to the course and stayed happy no matter what else was going on around me. Oh, once in a while that sneaky doubt tries to get in, but I stop it immediately and either keep thinking good thoughts about whatever it is I want, or I change the subject to something that is pleasing to me, like the birds. In order to do the things you want in this life you must stay the course and keep finding things, anything, that makes you happy. And it doesn’t even have to be jumping up and down happy. Just happy in any form will do. 

     Now of course this will take practice. One way is to look at yourself in the mirror as often as possible and smile and say, “I love you”. Look yourself right in the eyes and say it. At first it might seem a little weird or uncomfortable. So if it is too hard to say, “I love you”, say, “I am willing to love you”. Eventually you will be comfortable enough to say it and mean it. Another thing you can do is appreciate. Look around and see all that you have already. If you have a car, even if it’s an old clunker, appreciate it. If you hate it you will never get a car you love. The next time you get a car you will end up hating it too. You see, the Universe gives you what you focus upon. If you hate your job and you get a new one, eventually you will hate that one too. You see you take yourself with you everywhere you go, so there will be different faces and places but your feelings will still be the same. So how do you remedy this dilemma? Well, you need to find things that you appreciate about where you are now. For example, I would like a bigger house, so I never put the house I’m in now down in any way. I love my house and I treat it with respect. I keep it clean and I fix things that break. Someday I may want to sell this house so I want it to be as presentable as possible. This is how the Universe knows I appreciate it and will eventually bring me the bigger house. It will happen when the time is right. I’m not worried or fretting over the bigger house. I’m just living my happy life knowing that all is well and things are always working out for me. 

     I’ll tell you my journey has been a wild one, and I find that the happier I keep myself the more I get what I want in life. But even if I never got any of the things I imagine I am happy, and that is something we are all striving for. Just remember that life is supposed to be good. We all deserve to live our most authentic lives. We are all worthy beings. We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. And that’s saying everything. 

     So now you know you have to find happiness first and then all you want will flow easily and effortlessly to you. Smile more, laugh more and stop saying, “I’ll be happy when”. Be happy now because now is all there is. And remember there is always great love for you here.


                                       Deb Mertan

Vacation is Not a Luxury, It’s a Necessity

     This blog was inspired by one of my roommates. She is what I call, a yes person. What I mean is she never says no, or I don’t have time. She is a people pleaser. And that’s all well and good until it starts to make a person sick. Her boss has her working six days a week and twelve hours a day. And then she goes over to her mom’s house and paints something or fixes something. And everyone knows she’s a good mechanic, so she’s always asked to change oil or fix brakes and a whole array of other tasks. She even found a bunch of abandoned kittens and got up every two hours for weeks to feed them. Only three survived, but that was truly a miracle because they were practically dead when she found them. When they were old enough she gave two of them away and we kept the runt. Her name is Lola, and she is a little devil. You would never know that she was brought back from the brink of death. 

      Lately I’ve been noticing that my roommate hasn’t been as lively as she usually is. So I told her that she needs a vacation. I reminded her that we all need to balance our lives so that we don’t burn out or get sick. I told her that vacation is not a luxury, it is a necessity. Have you ever heard the saying, “All work and no play makes whomever it is a dull person”? Well sayings catch on for a reason. It’s because they bare a bit of truth. Life can really become dull when we don’t take care of the necessities. And as I have mentioned a couple of times already, it could even make a person very sick or something worse. 

     This is where being selfish comes in. And I don’t mean the kind of selfishness that hurts other people, I mean the kind of selfishness that cares about how a person feels. We are the only ones who can take care of that department. It is up to each and every one of us to make sure we feel good. In fact, I will go so far as to say it is our duty to keep ourselves well rounded. And that doesn’t mean we don’t do for others or work a lot, it means we take time to do what feels good as well. Before Covid hit I used to take one weekend a month and go somewhere. It didn’t matter if it was a trip to the beach or a visit with a friend or relative, but it had to be away from home. The reason it has to be away from home is because if I stay home I always find something that needs to be done, and it wouldn’t be a rest. Of course it would be nice to take care of the chores around the house, but that stuff will always be there and I can do it when I feel like it. Did you hear that? I said when I feel like it. Not when I have to do it or that I should do it. When I do anything I get myself in a frame of mind that helps make it fun. That way the job gets done faster and I don’t feel any angst while doing it. It’s a little tricky at first when you’re trying to make doing dishes or laundry fun, but it can happen. Have you ever heard the saying, “Whistle while you work”? It works, or you could put some music on and dance while you’re doing the dishes. I know it sounds funny, but that’s the point. You need to get out of your head and find ways to make it fun. 

     After Covid hit,  I stayed home like the rest of the world, But I still found ways to have fun. First of all I don’t listen to news of any kind. It’s just too depressing. I mostly  watch comedies. And I started crocheting again. In a year and a half I made twenty five blankets and secretly sent them to friends and relatives. It is fun to surprise people like that. In addition I wrote a lot of blogs which is also fun for me. And I published another book as well. As you can see I keep myself pretty busy, but only with things I love to do. 

     Now that Covid has lifted it’s restrictions I’m starting to go places again. I took a trip to Laughlin with a couple of friends, and I am going to Las Vegas in August, then I am booked on a three day cruise in October. 

     You know, I say this in almost every blog I write, “Life is supposed to be fun”. And it doesn’t have to cost a lot to get away for a weekend. You could go camping or get a hotel room near the beach or just take a long drive and see where you end up. The important thing is that you get away from your normal life and do something fun. These are just examples of things you can do, and I’m sure your wheels are turning right now thinking about things you would like to do. You can’t wait until you’re retired to start having fun. You might be too old or sick by then. Now is the time. In fact now is all we have. The past is gone and the future is uncertain. Live now! Have fun as much as possible NOW! Give yourself a break and see the world through rose colored glasses. Make your world exactly that, YOUR WORLD! You deserve to be happy. You are worthy of every good thing this Universe has to offer, and that’s everything. So, as I told my roommate, you need to balance. 

    Now go out there and show the world what a happy balanced person looks like. And remember there is always great love for you here.

                                                Very Truly Yours,

                                                           Deb Mertan