What’s the Rush?

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In this day and age things seem to always be so rushed. Or at least that is the way I used to feel about time in general. There never seemed to be enough of it. I always felt that I was running around doing a million things at once and really never accomplishing anything in a significant way. Sure I got things done like laundry and dishes and regular everyday tasks. I always felt very organized but at the end of the day I was too tired to do any of the things I had always dreamed of doing, because there was no time. But like most people I thought this was perfectly normal. It wasn’t until I was much older and I became so overwhelmed in my everyday life that I started looking for ways to make myself feel better. That’s all I wanted was to just feel better, not good or fantastic because that was just too big of a leap. That’s when I started looking on the internet to find any way of making myself feel better. I found positive quotes, little exercises that you work at every day, and mantras that when repeated were supposed to bring your spirits up. Once I started utilizing these methods I was led to other ways of finding joy. They came in the form of books, articles, CD’s and even the Oprah Winfrey show. I really started paying attention to all the good things that were happening because of my new attitude and it was awesome! That’s also when I learned about the law of attraction and realized that it was real, and I was actually bringing everything I wanted into my life.

Now that I was aware of what was happening and that I was in control of my own feelings, I was noticing how time seemed to slow down and I could do so much more in the same amount of hours that I had thought to be too short. Even traffic seemed to be lighter when I drove on the freeways. I never seemed to be late to anywhere I had to be. It seemed that the slower I went the more time had. I stopped feeling that angst about having to hurry for any reason. Haven’t you ever seen someone on the road weaving in and out of traffic trying to get ahead of everyone else? Only to pull up to the red light and they are right next to you. All that rushing around really did no good. If they had just stayed calm and went with the flow of traffic they would have had a much better trip.

Another thing I noticed is that things were coming to me as I was ready for them. It’s like you wouldn’t want everything you’re going to eat in your life to come all at once. You want to savor each meal and enjoy the taste and texture, swirl it around in your mouth and relish every bite. That is how I feel about everything now. I want to adore all there is to see and do and experience. Life is so good when you slow down and let it come to you in increments. Have you ever heard the saying, “Stop and smell the roses”? Well that is what it means. Stop and look around at this beautiful planet and really see the beauty. People sometimes get so busy that they never even pay attention to the sunset. They forget that life is supposed to be fun, and they get so twirled up in what they have to do that they keep their head down and their nose to the grind stone, and that’s not fun.

As humans we sometimes make things harder on ourselves than need be. What causes this, is the belief that we need to please others rather than ourselves. When we try to please everyone we end up pleasing no one, especially ourselves. It’s time for all of us to start being more selfish about how we feel, and if it don’t feel good, don’t do it. It is time to understand that you and only you can change your whole world.

Let’s talk about other things we as humans might be in a rush about. Like romance for instance. I know that the idea of being in love is beautiful, and we are all seeking it in some way or another. But when we just hook up with someone because we want a relationship so badly that we just settle for the first person who comes along, it doesn’t always pan out the way we would like it to. I’m not saying that love at first sight doesn’t ever happen because I have met people that knew they had found their right mate right away, but that is rare. What I am saying is, when we’re out in the dating world we should take our time and figure out what we really want before we make a full-on commitment. Like I said, “What’s the rush?” If you go into a relationship with no expectations or pre-conceived ideas of what the other person should or should not do and just let it unfold naturally you will be able to relax and have fun, no matter if it is the right one or not. There are so many people in this world, so why not give a few of them a try and see how they fit for you. In the mean time, you can figure out what works and what doesn’t work. It’s all relative and only you will know what fits best for you.

If you give it some thought, can’t you see that rushing really gets you nowhere? There is so much to see and do along your path of life. The journey is the only thing that matters. Once you get whatever it is you are after it will only thrill you for a moment and then you are going to be off on the next excursion to find something new to do or have. It will never end because life is infinite and so are we.

It’s time to learn how to chill and get back to basics. There are so many ways to relax and have fun. Heck even laying in the grass and staring at the clouds can be fun. I love to see how many animals I can find in the clouds as they slowly drift by and change right before my very eyes. The simplest things can bring such joy. Even just sitting on the front porch with a cup of coffee, watching the sun set is exhilarating to me. Time is precious and so are you. It is so important to take care of yourself because you are the only one who can. It is not anyone else’s job to make you happy, nor is it yours to make anyone else happy. Yes, it’s nice to be nice to others but not at the expense of your own happiness. Now is the time to look for ways to invigorate yourself and live life to the fullest. Once you start finding things to make yourself happy, you will see that everything you want will unfold for you. The trick is to stay happy as much as you possibly can and life will be so good. Worry and fret will be a thing of the past and joy will replace all the ugly feeling that has plagued you. Life is supposed to be good, fun, joyful, happy, and exciting and any other word you can think of that means alive.

So there you have it. You know now that there is no rush. Time will flow so smoothly once you let go of the angst that causes stress and worry. You really can create your own magical world once you slow down and take time to smell the roses. And always remember there is great love here for you.


Deb Mertan

Re-train Your Brain

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So, if you have been following my blogs you know about the law of attraction. So you also know that you get what you think about whether it’s good or bad. What you focus on, even if it’s for a short period of time, will become your experience. The law is always fair and consistent. It’s like when you’re dating a certain type of person and for some reason it doesn’t work out, so you move on to the next person only to find the same person in a different body. And until you decide it’s time to clean up your vibration, meaning your point of expectation, you will continue to attract that same person over and over again. When you realize this it is time to re-train your brain. It’s not as hard as you might think. It just takes a little practice and some patience.

So let’s say that you just broke up with your lover and you are feeling lost and alone. But that is because you are using that person as your source of happiness, and that’s why you feel out of sorts and a little un-balanced. Now let’s look at it another way. That person wasn’t the right one for you. They were just another piece of the puzzle, letting you know what you don’t want, therefore helping you figure out what you do want. And when you do look at the situation in this way you can actually feel the happiness grow inside you a little bit each day, until you realize that the happiness you were seeking was right there all along. This is you loving yourself more fully. And the more you do that the better you’ll feel. When you are selfish enough to care about how you feel and you practice that often you will never go back to feeling down, at least not without knowing what to do about it. That’s when it’s time to look for a new mate. But no matter what,if you date one person or a thousand people you are exploring and figuring out what is best for you. Isn’t that nice to know. And each time you part ways with a potential mate you will understand that it is just part of the process and there is nothing wrong. In fact, it couldn’t be more right. Keeping yourself on an emotional high is the only way to live. This could seem a little tricky at first but once you get the hang of it you can create anything you want in your life. I like to think of it as my own little world. Each person is in their own little world. None of us thinks exactly alike. We all have our own ideas and our own feelings about what is right and what is wrong for ourselves. No one else can insert their feelings into another person. Oh, they can influence another to manipulate them to do something, but eventually that will upset the relationship, and it will dissolve or fall apart. If you remember to live and let live and stop judging and condemning, and stop making anyone responsible for your happiness, life will be so much fun. It is so important to know this, because life can be whatever you want it to be as long as you take responsibility for your own joy. And let other people be responsible for theirs. The universe is very tricky in that it can help every one of us have what we want without taking anything away from anyone else. It has a way of blending us all together in perfect harmony when we are in a happy state of mind.

I know that if you are new to this concept that it could be a little un-settling to think of being your own boss. But I promise you it will be very rewarding once you get into the rhythm of happiness, and you let it run to you and through you. It’s like a stream that flows swiftly and you put your boat in the water and relax, the flow will carry you along with ease and you won’t even need paddles. But if you were to turn the boat up-stream and start paddling it would be a very difficult struggle. You can tell which way you are going by the way you feel. If you feel good about what you are thinking, doing, or who you’re with, then; you are definitely going with the flow. So, keep that in mind next time something upsets you. Pay attention to all your feelings and gravitate toward the good ones and steer clear of the not so good ones. Just learn from them and move forward. That is how you re-train your brain.

Here’s another example; Let’s say you are working a job that you hate. Yes, it pays the bills but it is not very rewarding. Every day you wake up with a grouchy attitude because you know you’re going to have another crappy day. Things will never get better for you when you wake up expecting to have a bad day. So how do you change that? You start by focusing on something you can feel good about, even if it is not related to work, it will help to focus on that. You could try by telling yourself before you slumber at night that you will release all resistance about work, and when you wake up in the morning try thinking about how you want the day to go. You may only make it to breakfast before you think of something un-wanted, but that’s okay, it takes practice. Just laugh it off and try again the next day. It will get better. As you keep doing this you will notice a change in the way you feel at work. And when you do feel better at work you might find that there are aspects of your job that you actually like, or you may find an opportunity to get a new job that you really love. But you must find your inner happiness first or you will just keep finding the same situation, just different faces and different places. It’s like the guy that keeps doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. Or think of it like this, Or you could say that if you don’t change the vibration of your thought patterns you will just be taking yourself with you, and you’ll end up in a loop of anguish.

You know it doesn’t have to take too long to change to a different mindset. It’s all up to you. The more you practice the faster it will change, and eventually it will become the norm for you to look for and find things that bring you joy.

And here’s the last thing I’d like to mention. Whenever you want to start a project and you don’t know how it’s going to come or who will bring it or where the money will come from, don’t worry. Worry is not necessary. It only slows things down. Let the ideas come to you and relax your mind through meditation, or petting your cat, or taking a walk in nature. And when the inspiration hits you to make the next move, then; take action. The money will find its way to you. Keep thinking about why you want what you want, how it will make you feel and what about it will be fun. I promise you that when you approach anything in this manner all the components will be attracted to you. Just pay attention to how you feel and if you start to get a little overwhelmed take some deep breaths and remember to remember to go within, find a happy thought and bring yourself back to center. Think of it like this, the universe knows what you want and knows how to bring it to you. That’s how the universe works. It may take you down some windy roads but when you look back you’ll see that everything that happened was necessary to bring you to where you are now. Remember that you are the boss of you and you truly deserve all the happiness in the world. You don’t need to wait until you’re old to start traveling and getting all the goodies you have ever wanted. You just need to re-train your brain to know and believe that you can be, do or have anything you want. Think big and know that you are a very worthy being. Whether it’s a lover, a job, or an invention, or anything else you desire, you can have it. All you have to do is figure out what you want and then let yourself have it. You know it’s as easy to create a button as it to create a castle. Life is good when you let it be, or should I say if you expect it to be. Remember to be your own boss and feel your way to bliss.

So are you feeling good yet? I think you are, or at the very least you’re feeling better. Be kind to yourself and everyone else too. And remember there is great love here for you.

Your friend forever,

Deb Mertan

One of a Kind Painting

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There is a new painting every day. Each morning as I drive to work and the sun is rising in the sky, I get the awesome pleasure of viewing the most miraculous scenes. The sky looks like a gigantic painting that changes continually, every second growing more and more vivid. Each time I look away and then look back at it I see a new painting. You know of course that we can’t own these paintings, but that they are there for all to see and enjoy. They just keep moving and rearranging themselves to mesh with the beauty of the earth, showing us every crease in the mountains as the sun rises and the shadows fall where they may. And the colors blossom as the pinks and the greys and the blues blend with the greens and browns with specks of colorful wild flowers scattered randomly like sprinkles on a cupcake. The world begins to shine as the sun so intelligently rays down upon us to bring to our attention how abundant we really are. Abundance comes to us in many ways not just monetary gain. It’s in everything around us. When you really think about it you could say, and really mean it, that we are abundant in oceans, and mountains, and sky, and birds, and trees, and friends, and family and so much more. I’m sure you as an individual can think of a lot more abundance in your life. When you start viewing life in this way, and realize that there is no ownership of any of it, it’s on loan so to speak, and it is always here for all to appreciate.   And by seeing everything with a cup half full attitude you will actually, greatly, positively relish your life. Now doesn’t that sound delicious?

You know, when you stop clinging on to possessions and start sharing your things and talents, the monetary abundance will naturally come. I know this sounds weird, but it is true. The more you don’t cling to things and people the more things you want and people you love will flow into your life. Tricky eh? But once you try to own it or force it, that’s when things start to go south and you end up losing out. What I mean is, hold on loosely but don’t let go. If you cling too tightly you’re going to lose control. That’s a verse in a song and it always made a lot of sense to me. Have you ever had a mate that you loved so much that it hurt? And then it ended and your world turned upside down. It’s like the earth opened up and swallowed you whole. That is because you were so dependent on that person to be your source of joy and happiness, and when you put that kind of pressure on another person it is bound to fail. But now think about a friend that you care about. You love this person but there is no pressure on the relationship because you understand that they are their own person and you accept them for who they are. You don’t need them to do or act any certain way for you to love and appreciate them. And if for some reason you part ways it would be a little sad, or not, but it would not destroy your whole world. It’s because you had no deep emotional attachment. When you treat everything with this attitude life will flow with ease.

If you really think about it life is always changing, second by second, just like the sky. We can’t really hold onto anything. The most we can do is be appreciative while it is here and when it’s gone think of it with fondness and be thankful for the part it played in this life that you created. Nothing is ever a waste of time because we always learn something new with each experience we have. Maybe if you start examining your life and see all the paintings that you have created you will find that it all fits together like a giant jig-saw puzzle. This painting connects to this painting then this one and so on. You’ll see how all of it fits together to bring you to where you are now. Now is all we have so why not make it the best now you can? The more I live in my now the happier I get. My main goal is to be happy so when I look around at all the abundant beauty there is for me and all to see I feel very joyful.

I actually like to think of myself as a one of a kind painting. I am a constant changing canvas, and as the years go by I see myself improving with age. Every wrinkle and every line on my face reminds me of the wonderful life I have led. I’m not saying that I never had troubles or woes but I now see all of it as the journey that brought me to this place right now. It truly is the journey, not the destination that brings the joy we are all seeking. By the time I leave this world my whole body will tell the story of who I really am. The person I choose to be is a happy joyous loving caring being. And no matter how old I get I will be a great example of what an on purpose person is all about. I will paint the last and final painting of my life as a person that lived life to the fullest. And I won’t be taking anything from this life with me. I will leave it all behind for someone else to use and enjoy. And once I pass through the veil that separates my human form from my infinitely intelligent spiritual form, I will never look back, but I will check-in every once in a while to see what’s new. And I will smile down on my loved ones and send them all my love.

I really don’t see why more people don’t think like this. They save their money all their lives and hope that one day, maybe after they retire, they will be able to travel. But now is someday. Think about all the people that wait, and when the time comes to do all those things they were planning to do, they’re too old or too sick to do any of it. Or the people that retire and don’t have anything to do so they just die, never really have lived. Or what about the people that are born with some kind of medical problem and instead of trying to find a way to enjoy their lives they sit in a chair with a remote in their hand, watching life go by on television. They are so afraid of dying that they never really live. Life is supposed to be fun and adventurist and it can only happen for you if you let it. It’s time to be brave and find your bliss and paint a new picture every day. It doesn’t have to be some grandiose painting but it does have to be your own. The more you play with this idea the more fun you will have and the better life will be for you.

I guess I rambled on long enough for this one blog. There will be plenty more to come though. I hope you find what you are looking for and that this blog gave you a little boost to do just that. My only wish for all who are seeking their bliss is that they find it and milk it for all its worth. So that when you do leave this world you will have led the most awesome life you could ever think of. And what could be better than that?

Remember there is great love here for you.

With much love,

Deb Mertan

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PMS, Not What You Think…


I know when people hear the acronym PMS they think of premenstrual-syndrome, and you can see why. PMS has been the curse of a lot of women, therefore their husbands and children, have suffered through it too. But that is not what this blog is all about. Yes the acronym is the same but I am giving it a whole new meaning. I am calling it pre-manifestational-syndrome. Let me explain. You know, if you have been reading my blogs, that I am a true believer of self-manifestation. And there is nothing we all can’t be, do, or have as long as we focus on what we do want, and not on what we don’t want. I’ll use the analogy of the corn seed planted in the ground. You logically know that once the seed is planted that there is a process that could take weeks or even months that needs to occur before you’ll see the full manifestation of the ears of corn on the stalk. If you were to get impatient and dig up the seed before it has a chance to grow you will kill the whole plan, dream or process. But if you wait patiently and watch for the signs of the corn coming, like the first sprigs of leaves poking through the ground, and then the little yellow balls that form just before they start forming into ears, and then voila, you can actually pick and eat them.

But wait, now you have no more corn. Oh dear, what to do now? Well if you really think about it we experience this similar scenario all the time. You see once you get what it is you are wanting it becomes old news. And yes it pleases you for a moment but then you find something else to go after. And if you are in this PMS (pre-manifestational-syndrome) state of mind eventually that will manifest as well. And once that shows up we are off to the next thing we want. It’s when we try to force things to come that we kill the whole process. I guess kill is too strong a word, it’s more like stifle. So the trick is to relax and let the universe do its thing, because it knows what you want and knows how to bring it to you. It is so fun to watch as all the components come together to bring you whatever you desire no matter what that may be. It will become a manifestation that not only you can see but others can as well. It’s almost magic. And it is oh so fun when you watch for the signs and know that you are in sync with your desire, and then see it appear right before your very eyes. But it’s not magic, it is the way it is supposed to be. And the only reason anybody wants anything is because they think it will make them happy. And since happiness is the goal, why not just be happy? Appreciate what you have and where you are in life and watch as it just keeps getting better and better. Once you get the idea to stop taking score of where you are and what you have or don’t have, and realize that keeping yourself happy is the path to everything else you want, life will just seem so easy and fun.

Now let’s talk about how to do this. As we all know there are plenty of things out there that can lead us down an ugly path. So how do you stay happy? By looking at something else that is more pleasing. When you focus on more pleasing things you will actually make it easier to find solutions to problems, rather than focusing on the problem, therefore perpetuating the difficulty. Nothing good ever comes from dwelling on the negative side of anything. As you can see there are two sides to everything. There is no dark without light, no good without bad, and no happy without knowing what sad really is. But once you experience the not wanted it is up to you to look away, bring yourself to a happy state of mind, then and only then, address the situation from a place of love and therefore bring a solution.

I know I’ve mentioned this in other blogs, but it bears re-iterating. What would unconditional love do? When we do everything from a place of love and appreciation life just flows more smoothly and we feel good most of the time. And when we have those rare moments of not so happy times we now know what to do about them, and we can bring ourselves back to a better frame of mind more swiftly.

So next time you hear the acronym PMS think about what you have been wanting and if you have been on the positive side or the negative side of it. You will know by the way you feel when you are thinking about it. And watch for the signs that are revealed to you all day every day that will lead you to wherever it is you want to be. Trust that the universe is always communicating with you and is always on your side no matter what. But remember you will get what you think about whether it is bad or good. So go within and find that happy thought, let it gestate, and then move forward. Life is so good when you allow it to be. You are the boss of you so never forget that. Leave everyone else out of the equation when you are finding your bliss, and miraculously you will attract like-minded people into your realm, and life gets even better. Seriously when life seems like it’s at its best it can get better, really! Believe me, I have been experiencing this for a while now, and just when I think life couldn’t get any better, IT DOES! There is no limit in this infinite universe. You are the only block of ANYTHING you want. You have all the magic inside you right now, if you only believe it and then know it. It’s all up to you. Now no more excuses about why your life is not what you want it to be. Get happy and watch all the people and things that you desire fall into place just the way you want them to. This is not airy-fairy chit-chat. This is for real. I know because I am living proof. I am so happy right now and I know there is so much more to come. You can say I am excited about NOW and EAGER for more. But Now is where it’s at and when the more comes it will be the “Now of then”. It’s all happening now, and now and now, get it. Love who you are and where you’re at and watch it grow like the corn stalk that brings you that ear of corn. It’s so fun and liberating to stay happy and let others find their joy without judgement or condemnation. Live and let live is my motto.

So now you know what to do and what to watch for. Be kind to yourself. Don’t get mad when you have an off day. Press the reset button before you sleep and wake up in a new frame of mind. Practice being your authentic self then life will be so amazing.

Remember there is great love here for you.

Your friend,

Deb Mertan


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I have mentioned the word momentum in some of my blogs, but I really want to impress upon you how important momentum is. Have you ever had a great idea that just gave you goose bumps all over your entire body, only to lose the feeling after putting doubt on your path? Well the reason for this is that you are used to thinking that good things don’t happen to people like you. You probably got a pretty good negative momentum going and it’s very strong. Maybe you picked up the idea that things are not supposed to work out for you from a parent or a teacher, and it’s been stuck in your mind all this time, or is it? What I mean by that is, that we all have the power to change our old beliefs or habits. You know that a belief is just a thought you keep thinking, don’t you? And it only becomes a truth if you let it. So how do you change the direction of momentum? You start one step at a time. Even a thousand mile journey starts with the first step. It is possible, but it takes a willingness to think another thought until it becomes your new belief, therefore your new truth.

Now that I understand how the law of attraction works I can see why people are where they are in their lives. I can tell by the way they talk and by the results they achieve. This applies to good lives and bad lives. When someone is a complainer and acts like a victim they just keep attracting more of the same. It’s just same results with different faces. If you haven’t changed what’s on the inside what happens on the outside can never really change, it’s the law! It always knows what you are thinking and more importantly, what you are feeling. It’s like when you are yelling at someone in an angry tone but saying, “Don’t you know I love you?” There is a mixed message there because the feeling doesn’t match the words.

So how do you get your momentum going in a positive direction? You pay attention. What I mean by this is you see how it feels when you say it or do it, whatever it is. If it feels good then you are on the positive trail, but if it feels bad you need to re-direct your thoughts or words to match the good feeling. For example, if you are hating on someone, you are feeling bad as well. So in order to feel better about that person you either need to ignore them or try to find something about them that you like. It may take a few tries but that’s okay too. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day, right? The more you practice finding good in other people the more good people you will find.

And another thing, you get what you expect to get. It’s like when something bad happens and you say, “I knew that would happen.” Well it happened because you expected it to. So why not start expecting good things to happen? It works both ways.

But sometimes momentum can be so intense that you just can’t stop it. Unless, of course, you come to the realization that you are the only one with the power to do something about it. And there are those people that never do get it, like Jim Morrison of the rock band “The Doors.” He had a destructive momentum going on. No matter how many people loved him and tried to help him he couldn’t stop the drinking and drugs. Oh, he would try to stop, and it would last for a little while, but he would always return to drugs and alcohol. At one point he even went to jail for 4 months because he supposedly exposed his penis on stage, which was never proven, and used profanity. Of course, he was clean when he got out, but that too was short lived. When someone keeps going back to the bad behavior it is because they have not taken the time to change their thinking pattern. They let what they see be their reality instead of creating their own reality. If they understood the law of attraction they would want to change the way they feel about everything.

Now I’ll tell you a story about positive momentum, mine. Although my life is pretty amazing right now it hasn’t always been. And even though I have always been a student of positivity.  I didn’t understand it the way I do now. It all started after my husband passed away. I felt like my life was falling apart and I couldn’t seem to make ends meet. It seemed like I was crying every day and nothing was making any sense. So I actually sat myself down and had a long talk about getting back on track. The first thing I did was look for things on the internet that would help lift my spirits. I found some processes that really seemed to work and as I continued to look for new ways of feeling good, things miraculously started changing for me. It has only been 6 shorts years since that horrible time and I now own my own home. Believe me this has been one hell of a journey. In a good way. I went from almost being evicted to owning my home, what a ride. I have finally learned what it takes to make my life my own creation, and that is to keep myself happy and not try to fix anything, because there is nothing wrong or broken. At first the momentum was slow going but as I continue to practice feeling good and being happy things are moving much faster now. I love the feeling of inspiration I get as I trust that things are always working out for me. I not only believe that, I know it. Once you get to the place of knowing it just keeps getting better and better. I know that I am worthy, and I know that I am good and I know that I can have, do or be anything I choose. I know now that every time negative thoughts come to me all I need to do is stop the thought and find something else to focus on. Stop the doubt before it starts, so to speak. I pay attention to how I feel about everything. Have you ever heard the expression, “What would Jesus do?” Well here’s a new way of saying that, “What would un-conditional love do?” When you start loving everything and everyone you will understand what I know to be true. When you let go of anger and judgement you release stress and hatred. When we are children we accept all others as equals. That is until we are taught to be hateful and judgmental. We all need to get back to that carefree time and stop worrying about what someone else is doing or not doing, and focus on what makes us happy. If we all did that we would all be living blissful lives. You think I’m kidding? I’m not, and you can bet on that. Words do not teach, but life experience does. All I’m saying is start really paying attention to how you feel about everything in your life. If you are going to a job every day that you hate you can’t be feeling good. Or if you are in a relationship that is full of struggle that can’t feel good either. So you have some choices to make in order to get back on the positive path. You can either, find something about that situation that pleases you, and focus on that, or you can start looking for what you really want and work toward that. Either way you will be moving in a direction that you can figure it out along the way. You’ll know what feels good or not. This is the journey and that is the best part of all. If you look for the fun stuff and keep yourself in a good frame of mind you can’t lose.

Now let’s talk about un-conditional love a little more. You need to love yourself with that same mindset. It is important to be very kind to yourself and not beat yourself up over dumb things. Especially when you first start changing your beliefs. Whenever you have a relapse moment just laugh it off and eventually you will change the way you think and speak. It’s a process, but one worth doing. And if you ever have any self-image concerns don’t focus there. I’m sure there is something about yourself that you at least like, if not love. When you start focusing on the things you like the other things just start getting better too. You will be inspired to do something, like cut your hair in a stylish fashion. Or to buy some different clothes that feel friskier. These are just suggestions but I think you get the gist. If you allow it, your body will be whatever you want it to be. Again, it’s the law. Remember, it’s all an inside job. Your feelings are your navigational system and you should really listen to them if you want to live an awesomely happy life. And get that momentum going in a positive direction by feeling your way to joy. That’s really all there is to this. It’s not hard, but it is time consuming. In fact, it is a whole new way of life. But once it becomes natural to you you’ll know and you’ll never go back the other way again.

So go on now and make yourself happy. It’s the least you can do for the good of mankind. Live and let live and life will flourish right before your eyes. And always remember, there is great love here for you.

Your Friend,

Deb Mertan

Weird Like Me

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As I have evolved through my life I have come to the conclusion that the more different I am from other people the more I love me. I feel that the only way for anyone to be truly happy is to be who they really are. And the more you become the authentic you, the more you will attract like-minded people into your life, and that’s a good thing. What prompted me to write this blog was a conversation between my 10 year old great nephew and my 28 year old daughter. They were chatting about her new boyfriend, which is something she really likes talking about, and he told her that he couldn’t wait for the weekend to be over so that he could get back to school to see his girlfriend. My daughter asked what was so special about this particular girl and he said, “Well, she is pretty and she’s smart and she’s weird like me.” This just reminded me how profound children can be. We not only teach our children but they teach us all the time if we choose to take notice. I think babies come into this world already geared up and ready to do great and wonderful things these days. I mean, 1 year olds are grabbing their mother’s phones and going right to their favorite shows and actually watching them. I’ve seen it happen. But not only do we learn from our kids, but through other adults that have thrown caution to the wind and said screw everyone else, I’m going to be who I really am, and if they don’t like it, whomever they are, well that’s just fine with me.

Let me give you some examples of the people I think are living or have lived their authentic life. One that comes to mind is Joan Rivers the comedian, she was a very courageous woman if you ask me. Being a woman in comedy was a rare thing when she started out. But she stayed true to who she really was no matter what anyone else said or thought about her. I heard her say in an interview early in her career that the secret to comedy is to tell the truth. Of course we embellish it a bit but that’s what makes it funny. I have been dabbling in stand-up comedy a little and I have found that advice to be very helpful.

Another person I find interesting is Bill Gates. I can picture him as a teenager mastering his computer skills and coming up with new innovative ideas. And look at him now, he is a very rich and powerful person. But I’ll bet he wasn’t thinking about money, it was just the icing on the cake, oh yeah, a lot of icing.

Then there is Andy Warhol. That guy was way ahead of his time, but he intrigued people so much that even when he painted the Campbell’s soup can everyone found it appealing. Apparently it is true that anything is possible.

I believe that all of these people had one thing in common and that is focus. They knew what they wanted and they put no doubt on the path. They found their inspiration and they followed the lighted trail. They weren’t worried about how or when or who would bring whatever they wanted, they just kept moving forward until the magic started to lead them to the right place at the right time. And then they took action. Remember this is an attraction based universe and when you try too hard to make things happen you usually get all balled up and nothing moves. But when you feel inspired to an idea it is always best to follow that nudge. Sure you can get a little ahead of yourself and things could seem to get a little squirrelly but that’s when you take a step back and give your brain a break until the next inspiration comes. Or think about something else non-related to what you are doing and save yourself from the what-ifs. And you can’t let other people bring you down either. When you have a good idea it’s probably best to keep it to yourself until you really get a hold on it and your momentum is stable and sure.

There are so many others that have learned to tune out the peanut gallery, meaning all others, and do what makes them happy, with great success I might add. For instance Steve Jobs, Amy Schumer, Mike Myers, Adam Sandler, Tina Fey, Will Ferrell, the list could go on and on but I think you get what I mean. Even Albert Einstein followed his own path and lived the life he chose to live. We are not all meant to be the same so why not embrace your weirdness and live the life you want to live, and what’s more deserve to live. Be your authentic self and let others do the same. Love unconditionally, and I mean everyone and everything and that includes yourself. Be ever so nice to yourself and eventually you will become the happiest person on earth and others will want to know your secret. Then you can tell them that you are loving more and criticizing less, especially about yourself, and that you are trusting that things are always working out for you. And that doubt, fear, worry and struggle are now taking a very back seat to joy, happiness, love and all other good feeling emotions so that you keep yourself vibrating at a very high level. If you just keep looking for things to feel good about you will slowly but surely only be looking for and finding those things and those people that truly match the frequency you are on. It’s like tuning your radio dial to your favorite station. When you hear that sweet music that really turns you on you know you are there. And if you stay there more often your life will surely be a joyous adventure. You can’t want too much because there is always plenty to go around. So think big, like the people I mentioned earlier. Don’t let doubt take you down. Stop doubt before it starts by changing the direction of your thoughts and find something else that pleases you to think about.

I am so happy that my 10 year old great nephew is leaning to embrace his weirdness at such a young age. I can see that he is destined for greatness in whatever he decides to do in his life. He has found the key to happiness and I hope he continues to find joy in all that he does. I hope that he will always march to his own beat and feel good and worthy all of his days here on earth and beyond. Just think how wonderful this world could be if we all just minded our own business and only concentrated on our own happiness, wow what a concept.

So are you getting it, that you are responsible for your own happiness, or not? You are the only one standing in your own way if life is not all you want it to be. You have to be happy before you reap any of the benefits you are after. Keep yourself on a high vibration and life will unfold before you in the most miraculous ways and eventually it will just seem normal for things to always work out for you. That is the way it is supposed to be. We knew before we were born and even just after that life was supposed to be good, but then other people tried to make us believe, through religion, government and school that we had to follow their rules and regulations if we were to be a “good person.” But I see a change in a lot of people these days. This is a very exciting time when more and more people are realizing that they are the master of their own domain and that they have the power to be, do or have anything they want and not feel shame or guilt about it, because it’s all good. We as humans are starting to get back to our roots, like nature, and we are now understanding the power of our minds and how connected we all are. We are all one spiritually and when we stop fussing and fretting we will not care what anyone else is doing or not doing. We will be free.

So now you know, you are supposed to be happy and life is supposed to be good no matter how weird you are. Now go out there and show the world what you are made of and don’t worry about if they get you or not. They are just the peanut gallery, what do they know anyway?

Remember there is great love here for you.

Your Friend Forever,

Deb Mertan

I Found the Fountain of Youth

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I guess it may sound like a fairy tale to most people, that there could be a fountain of youth. But that is because they, whomever they are, have been looking for it in the outer world, when in reality it has been on the inside this entire time. Yes, since the beginning of time we have had access to it and I just now figured it out for myself. Actually, I have always been in touch with my inner child. I would be the adult that would be outside playing hop scotch and kick ball with all my nieces and nephews. At the time, I really didn’t give it much thought, I was just having fun. Oh yes, other adults thought I was silly, but who cares what they think, right? I also really love dancing. I’ll be the first one on the dance floor even if I don’t have a partner. I just go off into my own little world and do what I love. And I sing loudly even if it doesn’t sound good to others, because it’s joyous to me. Haven’t you ever watched a little kid when they’re at the grocery store with their mom? They just sing and dance and enjoy themselves. They aren’t worried about who’s watching, they’re just having fun. They have the key. I guess what I am trying to get across to you is that even though we age on the outside and we will for sure die someday, which I believe is a myth because we are all energy and we just transition to another dimension, we still have the choice to be young on the inside. I still feel like I’m in my twenties and I am way past that humanly. I think I just made that word up, but I like it so, it stays. I see people that are humanly younger than me but have maybe half the energy and spunk that I do. Yes for a while there I fell into the belief that you should act your age, but after my husband transitioned and I found myself single again I decided to do all the things I have been wanting to do and just never did.

So now I’m doing all sorts of fun things, like stand-up comedy for instance. I really don’t care if I make a career out of it, I do it for the fun. And I also go to clubs where I dance and play and make lots of new friends. Oh, I tried karaoke once but it wasn’t my thing. But at least I tried. I may do it again someday but it really doesn’t matter. Life is too short to take anything too seriously. You’ve heard the saying, “Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff.” If you really, really, really think about it, that is the truest statement you can ever hear. What does worry accomplish anyway? It gives you wrinkles and gray hair. It causes ulcers and other illnesses, and shortens lives because stress is the silent killer. So just knowing that, doesn’t it make to want you kick your shoes off and yell, I’m free, I’m free and I’ll never be caged again? Well once you get past the point of guilt for not conforming to anyone else’s rules, and the worry and stress that has been bogging you down, you will feel free. And that’s when the inner child inside you will lead you to do anything and everything you want to do. Did you get that? I said everything you WANT to do. Want, want, want! Stop having to do anything. Stop using the word have. Sure there are things we do out of responsibility like paying the bills and feeding the kids, but those things can be done joyously too. Slow down and give yourself permission to be happy.

Have you ever heard the saying “The hurrier I go, the behinder I get”? Well, it is a saying and it is true. When you are rushing around and getting all twirled up in day to day tasks, you end up getting nowhere. But when you do things with an attitude of ease things flow and you can accomplish more than you thought you could. But, so what if you don’t accomplish anything? You’ve got to stop punishing yourself for leaving dishes in the sink or because you didn’t make your bed. Those things will still be there when you are ready to do them. Stop being so ridged and flow more often. Stop being so profoundly human, which to me means stiff and boring. Be more spiritual, which to me means free and fun. Life is supposed to be joyous so say. “Yes” more often. Yes, I will go to the movies on a weeknight, yes, I will take a weekend cruise, and yes, I will act silly even if others around me scoff. Be who you WANT to be. There is no judge in the sky tallying up all your Brownie points. You will not make marks on some sort of chart that will get you a good seat in heaven. “Now”, is what counts. Wouldn’t it be a shame if you got really old and then looked back and asked yourself, “Why didn’t I do that or I should have done this”? Yes, it would be.

Now I ask you, what is wrong with being nice to yourself? You want others to be nice to you, right? You need to sooth yourself into happiness. Take the time to get your nails done “guilt free”, or take a bubble bath in the middle of the day “just because”. Heck, take a nap if it feels good. Treat yourself like your own best friend. Love yourself like you do your lover. You do deserve these things and you need to see yourself as the worthy being that you truly are. You are not just a human being but a spiritual being as well. When you finally decide, and yes it is a choice, to be nice to yourself, then everything else will just fall into place. I mean everything, money, lovers, and that great vacation you’ve always wanted to take. All these things are available to us all the time but we get too bound up in “Reality” to see it. Stop being so reality oriented and dream more often. Believe that anything is possible and it will be for you. Slow down and meditate more, or pet your cat more often, or take a walk in a beautiful garden. See through your spiritual eyes and know that all is well. I know that deep down you know that you are always taken care of. I know you can think back to a time when you needed something like money for something and when you finally gave up looking for it because that was the only thing left to do, the money miraculously came. Tell me you never felt that. Well that is how it is all the time when you finally give up the struggle and let life live you. Follow the prompts like you would on a video game. Look for the signs that are always being revealed to you, be aware, be awake to the life you want and deserve. Be so in love with yourself that none of the outside bullshit can get to you. It will just roll off your back or go around you like you have a protective shield over you. Life is supposed to be fun and it would be a shame if you let it get away. Be happy in your NOW, because now is all we have. Wherever you are is okay. It’s just the launching point to the next now and the next one. And when you don’t get carried away with the what-ifs you will be much happier.

So how do you get to the fountain of youth? You slow down, you take it easy, and relax more, and pet your cat more, and take more walks and take more naps. Be nicer to yourself and love yourself and everything and everyone unconditionally. Be satisfied with where you are now and be eager for more. Let your inner child out more often.

So now you know the secret to the fountain of youth. It’s there if you choose to see and apply it. The ball is in your court. So what are you going to do NOW?

Remember there is great love here for you.

Always, your friend,

Deb Mertan

Let Go of the Residue


My life has been pretty good lately. I have really resonated with the fact that this is an attraction based universe. I have proven it to myself over and over again in the past couple of years. So when I started noticing money missing from my bank account it really freaked me out. How could this be happening? I have been working on my happiness and getting a lot of good results. Things seemed to be moving in a very positive direction, so why was this happening, now? Well after 4 weeks of this I finally broke down and changed my account number and did all the necessary things to get everything back on track, like getting my direct deposits transferred and my automatic bill paying going again. It was a little bit of a hassle but it was worth it. I also started on line banking; which I thought I never would. During all the turmoil I couldn’t get a grasp on why this was happening but now that it was taken care of I looked back at what I may have done to bring this on to myself. I had to be thinking of something that would be making this come to me. Like I said, this is an attraction based universe so whatever you focus on, good or bad, will come to you. Then I realized that while I was daydreaming about the day my millions of dollars would arrive, not how or when or who would bring it, just fantasizing about what I would buy and the trips I would take and so on, but in the back of my mind there was this soft whisper saying, but how do I keep track of all that money? It wasn’t a deep thought, it was casual, just a sparse passing thought. But those are the ones that sneak up on you. It could be a good passing thought or a bad passing thought, but none the less it is sneaky.

For example, one day I was cleaning out my garage. I had loaned out one of my favorite CD’s to a friend and I thought to myself that I should buy a second one so that while that one was out I could still have one to listen to. As soon as the thought left my mind I opened a bag and voila there was a brand new set of the exact one I had loaned out. It was my son’s but he didn’t have a CD player so he left it in a bag that somehow ended up in the garage.

Now that may seem like a coincidence but these things just keep happening. Another time, I had just gotten my washing machine fixed and I made the statement that the next thing I was going to get was a refrigerator. Mine was not staying cold and the freezer was thawing and re-freezing everything so that it was all frost bitten. Again, I didn’t say how I was going to get one or if it would be new or used, I just casually said, in a matter of fact attitude that my next thing would be a refrigerator. Two days later my roommate said that his parents had sold their rental home that was very close to me and there was a refrigerator there if we wanted it. He asked me if I did want it and without hesitation I said yes, anything was better than mine. So I went to work not really thinking about what it would be like, in fact I even forgot that it was coming. When I got home I went to the coffee machine to get a cup and when I turned to get the creamer I was surprised and delighted to see a side-by-side huge white refrigerator standing there. What was really funny is that it was exactly the kind of frig that I had been wanting. And it was nice and cold inside. I literally screamed and jumped for joy.

So, getting back to my story about the bank, I thought that after figuring out what had caused this, my casual thought about managing money, that everything was fine and dandy once again. But gradually I started feeling pain in my right shoulder. It wasn’t too bad at first but it just kept nagging at me. It was hard to sleep and it eventually started affecting my left shoulder. I was going for massages trying to sooth it and my therapist said it was affecting my whole shoulder girdle. I tried topical pain creams and ibuprofen, sitting in the spa but nothing seemed to help. So one day while listening to one of my CD’s on law of attraction there was a story of a woman with pain from arthritis in her hips. She couldn’t understand how she could think positive thoughts when she hurt so badly. It was suggested to her that she could be in pain and feel fearful or be hopeful. It is all about vibration. She was asked, how does it make you feel? The woman answered that she felt restricted and weak. Right then I realized that I was feeling that too. This whole business of being violated made me feel that way and even though it was taken care of I had not let go completely of the fear. It was residual residue that I had been hanging on to. Now you may not believe this but as soon as I realized what was going on the pain almost completely disappeared. I was astonished. It was literally instantaneous. It has been three days now and I have not used any pain relievers, no heating pad or any other type of relief and I feel great. I can sleep and work and even though I still feel a tinge of the pain that was there occasionally it is nothing I can’t handle. Each passing day gets better and I have no doubt that it will continue to do so. The pain was just residual pain that I had not eliminated yet.

That actually reminded me of my mother and how she would be so calm in a crisis, but after everything would subside she would break down and cry. Now I know how that can build up and if you don’t relieve it, it will show up in other ways like pain. So next time you have a back ache or any other kind of pain think about what you have been thinking about and see how fast you feel better. Then you will also know not to think that thought any more. I know this sounds simple, but that is it. The work is to think better thoughts until they become habit or new beliefs. Do this until you get so good at it that bad thoughts will just feel wrong and you will want to go back to good thoughts. You will become addicted to feeling good and you will never be able to go the other way for very long again. The momentum of the joy you create for yourself will surely turn your life around and things will just keep getting better.

As I am seeing, by life experiences, that we definitely do live in an attraction based universe, my choices keep getting more and more deliberate. As per request so to speak. Science has proven that humans use a very small portion of their brains or minds if you will. I think the key is to make your request to the universe or whomever you consider to be the source from which all good comes, then sit back and relax and let the universe do its thing to bring it to you. When you finally realize that life is supposed to be easy, you will feel like a magician, conquering up a world that pleases you immensely and exclusively. You know it’s not the destination that is so delicious, it’s the journey. If you really pay attention to the signs that are being revealed to you constantly, you will start to have wonderful adventures all along your path. And if you really think about it, once you do accomplish whatever it is you are after, it becomes old news and a new idea catches your eye and there you go off to the next adventure. Life is so fun when you let it be. You are the only one blocking anything from coming to you, weather it is a lover or a big pile of money or anything else you are wanting. Relax, stop trying so hard to make things happen. Realize that once you ask for something you want there is a buffer of time before it will materialize. You don’t plant a seed and expect it to grow right away. So let the universe do it’s job and just enjoy the process. And notice the unfolding as you move into the direction of what you want. It’s not about being patient either. It’s about giving it time to grow. You don’t get pregnant and expect the baby to come now. You know it has to develop over a nine month period. So let your desires grow too. And have fun while waiting for the delivery. And stop doubting too. When you ask for something then question how it’s going to come and when it’s going to come and who is going to bring it, you add resistance to your desire and that slows everything way down and sometimes even stops the flow. So just ask and trust and go do something fun while you are waiting for whatever it is you are wanting. Expect it will come just like you know Christmas will come.

Here, let me show you an example of how to really get started. Think of yourself at the ocean. You want to go in the water but it’s very cold, so you tippy toe in maybe up to your ankles, but then you back up a little so it’s not so cold. Then you go back in and this time you go a little further, maybe to your shins, but it’s still too cold. You keep this up until you are fully in the water and you have acclimated to the temperature. That’s how learning how to change old habits or beliefs is. You do it a little at a time until it becomes normal to you. That’s how you stop doubting and start believing and eventually start knowing. Life will teach you through experience so pay attention to how you speak, think and feel. You will be amazed at how wonderful and delicious your life can and will be. Go big and do great things. That’s an order, so go. And remember there is great love here for you.

Forever your friend,

Deb Mertan

You’re Always Here, You’re Never There

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I once had a boyfriend that always said, “I’m always here, I’m never there.” At the time I didn’t think too much about it. But today as I was driving to work the idea popped into my head that this statement was very profound. It is the truest statement I have ever heard. If you really give it some thought you can see that it makes a lot of sense to those of us who are always striving to live in the now. If I am always here then I must be living in the now. Just like there is no tomorrow, because when tomorrow gets here it is actually today. Oh yes, you can think about tomorrow or the future but you are doing it now. And you can travel to there, but once you get there you are actually here once again. When you pay attention to where you are it is a much happier way to live. You don’t need to justify how you got here, only know that everything that has occurred in your life has brought you to this point in time and it is exactly where you are supposed to be. And you don’t want to think too far into the future because the what-ifs start popping up and you can get cross-ways of what you are wanting.

Life is supposed to be fun. Sure, there are things that we do that most people would consider not fun but if you really look for it there is an element of fun in everything we do. Half of the fun is looking for it and finding it. People spend too much time fretting over things they have no control over and this is what gets them all balled up. The only thing we have total control over, if we choose to practice it, is our emotions. Think about the animals of our world. They do not fret, not one little bit, especially our domestic pets. They are not worried about getting up on time for work or what they are going to wear today. They don’t ask anyone what’s for dinner, they just wait until the bowl is full and then they eat what’s there. They have no doubt that they will be taken care of. We need to feel more like that in order to free up our minds to think about more fun stuff to do.

Or think about it this way. What if you were a new born baby? You don’t worry that you will starve. You give a little cry out to mom or dad and they come with a bottle. And when your diaper is dirty they change you. And besides sleeping, those are the only things that you need. Life is simple and good. If you really stretch your imagination you can see that this is how the universe works. When you start believing that everything is always taken care of for you, you can relax and enjoy yourself. Use your emotions as your guide. The happier you are the more things will go your way. Once you practice this for a while you will never want to go back to fretting. You will realize what a waste of time it is and how bad it is on your wellbeing. You must realize that happiness is a choice and once you apply it to your everyday life you will feel better; not only emotionally but physically as well. I have said this before in many of my blogs that everything starts on the inside. That means that the only way to feel better is to fill yourself with happy thoughts and be as loving as possible. When you choose to share your love and joy you attract other like-minded people it becomes a constant loop of bliss. Why would anyone want anything less than that?

One thing that works well for me is to smile at myself in the mirror, and say, “I love you Deb.” When you love yourself fully you see it reflected back through the eyes and actions of others. It gets more and more exciting to me to see how loved I am through others. And it also reflects back from our domestic animals. They just seem to gravitate to me now in a way I have never known before. It makes me know that I am on my right track and I have nothing but great things in store for me. It is so easy for me to talk to people and play and have fun in everything I do. I look for the right person to sit next to on an airplane or at the lunch counter in a restaurant. When I purposely sit next to someone it always turns out to be a fun time. You may be thinking that you are too shy or embarrassed to talk to a stranger but believe me it is more fun than you think. You’re probably never going to see that person again so who cares if you act silly. In fact, being silly is what children do all the time and they don’t worry if someone is looking at them funny. Have you ever watched a young child at a doctor’s office playing and laughing, while all the adults are somber and serious? That’s because they know that there is nothing serious going on here. They are a great example of always being here. If I were you, I would stop worrying and fretting, and I would kick fear to the curb. Life is so good when you let it be. Give yourself permission to be free and take deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed. Line up with your inner being and see how great things, really are. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated and you will see that others treat you that way too.

I love my life so much that I can’t help but share what I have learned with all of you lovely people. And once you start filling yourself with this everlasting joy you will want to share it too. It becomes addicting and then contagious. But it is better than any drug that is out there. It is a high that will become a euphoric familiarity that you will want to cherish forever. Remember there is nothing serious going on here and you can’t get it wrong and you’ll never get it done. New thoughts and ideas will constantly be coming to you and life will continue to get better and better.

So what are we talking about here? We are talking about being present in the here and now and staying as happy as possible. Making better choices and looking for the fun in life. How much easier could it be? Be happy, be happy, be happy! And then be happy some more! Okay so now you got it. So go do it. Practice fun, joy and love. Life will change in what seems to be in miraculous ways, but in reality that is the way it is supposed to be. And one more thing, remember there is always great love here for you.

Forever, Your Friend,

Deb Mertan

Look for the Silver Lining

Have you ever had things go terribly wrong only to find out later that whatever it was that happened turned out to be a blessing in disguise? That is because we are always receiving what we focus on the most. Whether we want it or not, if we give it our full attention it will surely show up. You see, we live in an attraction based universe, so when you say yes about something, and you let it gestate long enough, without adding any doubt into the mix, you will see it. But if you say no to something you don’t want, you will also attract that, because you give your attention to it. The universe doesn’t hear what you say, it responds to how you feel. Example, when a parent is yelling at a child, saying in a loud voice, “Don’t you know I love you!” it sends a mixed message to the child. The words don’t match the feeling behind them. Or if you were to tell someone that you are sorry for something you did or didn’t do, and you sounded snotty while saying it, that would also not match. Those are two examples of feeling verses words but it also applies to how you feel when you say you want something. Like let’s say you wanted a new car and you casually said, “I’m thinking about getting a new car.” You don’t really hear any resistance in that statement. You could just go about your business and not give it too much thought and before you know it you would be getting a new car. But if you were to say after that statement, “But I don’t see how I could do that” that would throw up a wall that would stop all momentum from moving forward. When you feel light and confident about it things move along at just the right pace. Things come to you when you are ready to receive them. But when you are all balled up asking, where is it, when is it going to get here, you slow everything way down.

Have you ever heard the phrase, ask and it is given? Well that is the truest statement ever uttered out of anyone’s mouth. Sometimes you may think that what you asked for isn’t coming, so you keep asking for the same thing over and over again. Being redundant doesn’t help anything. The universe knows what you want and knows how to get it to you. Just relax and be casual about it. Life is supposed to be fun and if you remember that every day you will start to see a tipping of the scale, from the not wanted to the wanted. But in order to stop thinking about the unwanted you have to start thinking about something else. You can’t just stop thinking about that thing you’re not going to think about. That just keeps perpetuating the thought. You have to look for things to think about or focus on that are pleasing to you, things that make you smile. Of course this all takes practice. Everything that is worth doing does take practice. Everything that you do now took training, and I mean everything, from dressing yourself to driving a car. So why is this any different? A belief is just a thought you keep thinking so why not change the direction of your thoughts. The only reason it may seem difficult at first to think better thoughts is because you have been trained either by others or by your own habits of thoughts to think that way and you have a momentum going in that direction. But if you think of your emotions or in other words your feelings, as your navigational guide you will always know which way you are going. It’s like your GPS system guiding you turn by turn and when you stray it says, “Please return to the highlighted route.” That is what gut instinct is all about. When you practice this and get pretty good at it you will become super sensitive to how you are feeling and be able to return to the route very quickly, before you get any momentum going in the wrong direction. This is all very simple stuff but it can seem hard at first like I mentioned earlier. And just because it seems too simple to have any effect on your mood or attitude, don’t be fooled. It will have a great impact on your life in a very positive way. It can be as soon as tomorrow or it could take 30 days, it’s all up to you and how earnest you are in focusing on what it is you want in your life.

Have you ever seen a 3-D printer at work? They are so awesome, and a little weird if you ask me. I have a friend that has one and I watched it make a cover for a remote control device that’s goes to his drone camera. As I was seeing this thing form right before my very eyes I started thinking about things working out for me in a similar way. It’s like I put my request out to the universe and then I just kick back and let it do it’s thing. I don’t have to keep checking to see if it’s on track because I know it will work on it until all of a sudden there it is. Actually it’s also like planting a seed. You don’t plant corn and then get a rose bush. You know that when you plant the corn seed you will eventually get corn, but only after it takes root and grows into a full blown corn stalk. My suggestion is to know what you want and tell the story the way you want it to be. I know Donald Trump is an odd duck but he has the right idea about how to go about getting what he wants. When he is building a new building, like a casino, he talks about how great it’s going to be and how everyone is going to love going there, and so on. He tells the story he wants to be true. You know you can do that with everything in your life, even the stuff you consider really bad. If you just look at things from your past with a new perspective and find the silver lining, you will feel a whole lot better and things in your now will be able to move forward. And if you don’t get yourself too far into the future with what-if thoughts you will also feel a whole lot better and things will move even faster to get you to where you what to be, or should I say where you want to feel, and that just comes down to staying in a good mood and mostly being happy. You can choose to be happy right now if you really want to. You are so free to choose what you want or you could choose bondage. But why would you choose something that goes against your nature to feel good? I’ll tell you why, because you just got used to it, but now it’s time for a change! It’s time to think on purpose and create your own journey, the way you want it to be. Be your own boss and love with all your heart. Be un-conditional and love even the haters. You don’t have to like or dislike anything anyone else does or doesn’t do but love is a powerful tool that can spread to even the worst people on earth. If more people did more things out of love the world would have to change to a greater place to live. We all have a say in our own lives and our own world.

I guess I’ve rambled on long enough. If you’re going to get it, I’m sure you have by now. Just one last thing before I go, be careful what you wish for because you will get it, whether it’s wanted or un-wanted. Be nice to yourself and love deeply. Sooner than you think things are going to change and the better it gets, the better it gets. There is great love here for you.

Deb Mertan