As I have evolved through my life I have come to the conclusion that the more different I am from other people the more I love me. I feel that the only way for anyone to be truly happy is to be who they really are. And the more you become the authentic you, the more you will attract like-minded people into your life, and that’s a good thing. What prompted me to write this blog was a conversation between my 10 year old great nephew and my 28 year old daughter. They were chatting about her new boyfriend, which is something she really likes talking about, and he told her that he couldn’t wait for the weekend to be over so that he could get back to school to see his girlfriend. My daughter asked what was so special about this particular girl and he said, “Well, she is pretty and she’s smart and she’s weird like me.” This just reminded me how profound children can be. We not only teach our children but they teach us all the time if we choose to take notice. I think babies come into this world already geared up and ready to do great and wonderful things these days. I mean, 1 year olds are grabbing their mother’s phones and going right to their favorite shows and actually watching them. I’ve seen it happen. But not only do we learn from our kids, but through other adults that have thrown caution to the wind and said screw everyone else, I’m going to be who I really am, and if they don’t like it, whomever they are, well that’s just fine with me.
Let me give you some examples of the people I think are living or have lived their authentic life. One that comes to mind is Joan Rivers the comedian, she was a very courageous woman if you ask me. Being a woman in comedy was a rare thing when she started out. But she stayed true to who she really was no matter what anyone else said or thought about her. I heard her say in an interview early in her career that the secret to comedy is to tell the truth. Of course we embellish it a bit but that’s what makes it funny. I have been dabbling in stand-up comedy a little and I have found that advice to be very helpful.
Another person I find interesting is Bill Gates. I can picture him as a teenager mastering his computer skills and coming up with new innovative ideas. And look at him now, he is a very rich and powerful person. But I’ll bet he wasn’t thinking about money, it was just the icing on the cake, oh yeah, a lot of icing.
Then there is Andy Warhol. That guy was way ahead of his time, but he intrigued people so much that even when he painted the Campbell’s soup can everyone found it appealing. Apparently it is true that anything is possible.
I believe that all of these people had one thing in common and that is focus. They knew what they wanted and they put no doubt on the path. They found their inspiration and they followed the lighted trail. They weren’t worried about how or when or who would bring whatever they wanted, they just kept moving forward until the magic started to lead them to the right place at the right time. And then they took action. Remember this is an attraction based universe and when you try too hard to make things happen you usually get all balled up and nothing moves. But when you feel inspired to an idea it is always best to follow that nudge. Sure you can get a little ahead of yourself and things could seem to get a little squirrelly but that’s when you take a step back and give your brain a break until the next inspiration comes. Or think about something else non-related to what you are doing and save yourself from the what-ifs. And you can’t let other people bring you down either. When you have a good idea it’s probably best to keep it to yourself until you really get a hold on it and your momentum is stable and sure.
There are so many others that have learned to tune out the peanut gallery, meaning all others, and do what makes them happy, with great success I might add. For instance Steve Jobs, Amy Schumer, Mike Myers, Adam Sandler, Tina Fey, Will Ferrell, the list could go on and on but I think you get what I mean. Even Albert Einstein followed his own path and lived the life he chose to live. We are not all meant to be the same so why not embrace your weirdness and live the life you want to live, and what’s more deserve to live. Be your authentic self and let others do the same. Love unconditionally, and I mean everyone and everything and that includes yourself. Be ever so nice to yourself and eventually you will become the happiest person on earth and others will want to know your secret. Then you can tell them that you are loving more and criticizing less, especially about yourself, and that you are trusting that things are always working out for you. And that doubt, fear, worry and struggle are now taking a very back seat to joy, happiness, love and all other good feeling emotions so that you keep yourself vibrating at a very high level. If you just keep looking for things to feel good about you will slowly but surely only be looking for and finding those things and those people that truly match the frequency you are on. It’s like tuning your radio dial to your favorite station. When you hear that sweet music that really turns you on you know you are there. And if you stay there more often your life will surely be a joyous adventure. You can’t want too much because there is always plenty to go around. So think big, like the people I mentioned earlier. Don’t let doubt take you down. Stop doubt before it starts by changing the direction of your thoughts and find something else that pleases you to think about.
I am so happy that my 10 year old great nephew is leaning to embrace his weirdness at such a young age. I can see that he is destined for greatness in whatever he decides to do in his life. He has found the key to happiness and I hope he continues to find joy in all that he does. I hope that he will always march to his own beat and feel good and worthy all of his days here on earth and beyond. Just think how wonderful this world could be if we all just minded our own business and only concentrated on our own happiness, wow what a concept.
So are you getting it, that you are responsible for your own happiness, or not? You are the only one standing in your own way if life is not all you want it to be. You have to be happy before you reap any of the benefits you are after. Keep yourself on a high vibration and life will unfold before you in the most miraculous ways and eventually it will just seem normal for things to always work out for you. That is the way it is supposed to be. We knew before we were born and even just after that life was supposed to be good, but then other people tried to make us believe, through religion, government and school that we had to follow their rules and regulations if we were to be a “good person.” But I see a change in a lot of people these days. This is a very exciting time when more and more people are realizing that they are the master of their own domain and that they have the power to be, do or have anything they want and not feel shame or guilt about it, because it’s all good. We as humans are starting to get back to our roots, like nature, and we are now understanding the power of our minds and how connected we all are. We are all one spiritually and when we stop fussing and fretting we will not care what anyone else is doing or not doing. We will be free.
So now you know, you are supposed to be happy and life is supposed to be good no matter how weird you are. Now go out there and show the world what you are made of and don’t worry about if they get you or not. They are just the peanut gallery, what do they know anyway?
Remember there is great love here for you.
Your Friend Forever,
Deb Mertan
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